The Road Not Taken

July 25, 2020

© Carole Kanchier, PhD

“Two roads diverged in a wood, and I took the one less traveled by… And that has made all the difference.”  Robert Frost.

What road would you take?

Award winning, Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life Job and Life, by Dr. Carole Kanchier, may help you decide. https://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963

Questers Dare to Change transcends traditional thinking about careers and work, and describes a unique, holistic, model of lifelong learning, growth, and decision making.

Dr. Kanchier demonstrates how career and life transitions are linked to all areas of a person’s life.

 Informative and thought provoking, “Questers challenges readers to confront their lives in very basic, honest ways. Using research conducted on hundreds of thousands of adults, Kanchier blends motivational stories, questionnaires, and guidelines to help readers understand how they grow and change through life, where they are in their career and life cycles, and how tocreate purposeful, fulfilling lives. This leading edge, integrative, inspiring approach to career/life revitalization empowers readers to create desired lives.

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Author Bio: Carole Kanchier, PhD, is an internationally recognized newspaper/digital columnist, registered psychologist, coach and author of Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life.  Kanchier has taught at University of California, Berkeley and Santa Cruz, University of Alberta, and other institutions of higher learning. Dr. Kanchier is known for her pioneering, interdisciplinary approach to human potential.

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What to Say if You’re Told “Overqualified”

Tony is an electrical engineer who has managed several significant projects. He is hard-working, competent, seasoned and mature with numerous job successes. But he’s having a tough time finding a position. He’s told he’s “overqualified.”

“We’re really impressed with your skills and experience, but we don’t think you’re right for this position,” employers say.

Has this happened to you? Your work experience may gain the interest of employers but it may also scare them off.  If you can identify employer’s real objections, you can prepare for these concerns and address the issues head on.

Find out how you can present yourself differently. Talk with the people who interviewed you to get specific feedback. Ask them to describe their ideal candidate.

Dealing with objections

What do they mean by “overqualified?” They could mean any of the following:

Objection 1: “Your experience is too technical for us.” They may be feeling intimidated, or may not want to hear how it should be done.

Response:  You could say, “Things are always changing. I’ve done well in other jobs because I look forward to new challenges and opportunities to grow.  I expect to keep learning here as well as make contributions.”

Objection 2:  “You’ll want more money than we can afford.” They believe you won’t be happy with what they offer, or you’re more experienced than other employees.

Response: If applicable, give specific examples of how you helped cut costs or increased revenues in past jobs. Show how you can help them make more money that would justify the extra salary.

If your last job had many management responsibilities, and you prefer technical functions, say, “This position would allow me to focus on technology, the work I enjoy and do best.” If you’re looking for less responsibility, say “I may not be making as much money, but I ‘d really like this work.”

Objection 3: “You’ll find the work boring and leave when a better offer comes along.” They think you’ll jump ship when you get a better offer and they may not want to spend time and money training someone who will leave.

Response: Display your humility and enthusiasm. Show how you’ll be a great team member. Point out your longevity in previous jobs. Say, “As you can see on my resume, I’m not a job hopper. I commit to my employers.” or “I want to see the long-term results of my contributions.”

Offer to sign a contract committing to a specific amount of time with the company.

Objection 4: “You’re more experienced than what the job requires. The work pace, energy level, etc. require a younger person.” They may think you’re too old. As a mature worker they may assume you’ll be tough to terminate because of age discrimination laws.

Response: Show that you have vested pension rights from past employment. Make your age a strength. Stress maturity, judgment, perspective, dependability, a strong work ethic, and ability to handle stress.

Referring to your skills and accomplishments, show how you can produce.

Highlight your flexibility and openness to new ideas. Show that you love learning, have computer skills and keep up with changes in your field. Speak comfortably of your tolerance for ambiguity. Don’t forget your ability to mentor less experienced workers.

Objection 5: “You have the skill set. It’s a question of fit.” This could be something as simple as poor “chemistry” between you and the interviewer.

Response: Stress how you’ll enjoy the pace and energy of their organization. “The energy here is so positive, uplifting, and motivating. I know I’d do a terrific job.”

Outline qualifications

Point by point show employers how your qualifications match up.  Give employers a reason to buy your skills.

If all else fails, ask: “What can I do to convince you that I’m the best person for this job?”

Don’t forget to research the company. Know their mission and culture. Get an updated job description. Find out what they want in prospective employees.

Remember, an interview is a two-way street.

Questers Dare to Change You Job and Life https://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963 by Carole Kanchier offers additional tips to ace interviews and strengthen traits required to succeed at work.

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Authenticity: Be Yourself

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The word, “authenticity” comes from the Greek root authentikos, meaning “original, genuine, principal.” Authentic people are genuine, self actualizing and have a sense of purpose. Along with fearless passion and courage, they possess strong mental discipline. 

Authenticity does not come from title, social stature, or wealth, but rather from how we live. That is, how we go about pursuing our purpose and making a contribution in our own unique way. Authentic people prevail in changing times because they are in harmony with the energy of the universe. Most Questers, described in Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life, are authentic: www.questersdaretochange.com.

How authentic are you?

Check qualities you possess.

– Try to perform daily activities in unique ways

– Work hard

– Share honest opinions

– Enjoy being alone

– Self aware

– Curious

– Love intellectual stimulation

– Respect others

– Enjoy inter personal relationships

– Seek new opportunities

– Exude vibrancy

– Care about environmental issues

– Live in the moment

Scoring: The more statements you checked, the more authentic you seem to be.

Fostering authenticity

To be authentic, you must understand who you are, who you want to become, and contributions you intend to make to make the world a better place.  Be self-guided, real!.

– Strengthen Quester traits. Take the Quester Quiz: http://www.questersdaretochange.com/services-2/quester-quiz

– Build self esteem. Confidence gives you courage to set high expectations, to risk, to grow, to be authentic. Acknowledge your accomplishments. Prepare a list of positive achievements and personality characteristics. Post this where you can read it daily. Don’t change to please others or compare yourself to or compete with others.  

Stretch yourself. Constantly push the envelope, raising standards. Challenge conventional beliefs and paths. Travel uncharted territories. Although this may invoke disappointments, accepting and growing through challenges enhances authenticity.

– Be in the moment. Engage yourself completely in the activity at hand.

– Maintain perspective. Time and distance can make mountains seem like molehills. Don’t let what happened yesterday affect what will happen tomorrow. Face each challenge with an open mind.  Look upon setbacks as one step toward growth and authenticity.

Take comfort in uncertainty.  This unchartered path evolves moment-by-moment.  Realize the path is the goal. Everything is workable. 

– Focus on the positive. Look for and expect good things. Each time you catch yourself thinking something negative, replace it with a more positive thought.

– Strengthen resilience. Note what you’ve learned from traumatic experiences. Indicate how these have made you stronger, wiser, more authentic. Identify early cues that you’ve ignored, and what you’d now do differently.

– Bolster courage to risk. Review three successful risks taken. Note what made these successful. Identify perceived barriers for taking another risk, and explore ways to overcome them.

– Manage fear. Identify worrisome issues. Minimize these by researching relevant information and resources. Live in the present. Let go of “attachments.”

– Create a life in which you continue to grow and have choices. Make choices in harmony with your authentic self. Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life shows how. http://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963

Dr. Carole Kanchier, career and personal growth expert, is a registered psychologist, coach, speaker and author of  award-winning, Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life.

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#Colors Affect #Mood

July 12, 2020

© Carole Kanchier, PhD

How Colors Affect Mood and Performance

When I wore black to business meetings in San Francisco I was perceived as sophisticated. However, when I wore black to meetings in certain small school districts, I was considered aloof. A change of wardrobe color altered perceptions.

What do the colors you wear say about you? Colors you wear may affect your mood as well as how others perceive you. Work environment colors also matter.

At a subconscious level colors affect people in different ways. Colors can send positive or negative messages. Using colors effectively to dress, decorate your office or design your web site can put you ahead of the competition.

What Colors Convey

Research on the psychology of color consistently demonstrates that colors evoke emotional, behavioral and physical responses. Advertising executives know that a product can have a completely different impact if the packaging color is changed. Psychologists have found that certain colors in our environment help or hinder performance of certain tasks. Mental concentration is best in cool environments while exercise is best performed in warm environments.

Generally, warm colors such as red and its neighboring hues on the color spectrum are active, exciting. Cool colors such as light green, blue and violet are passive, calming.  Reds tend to stimulate the central nervous system, increase bodily tension, while cool colors release tension. Meanings change with lighter or darker shades of colors, and different cultures have differing views.

Research suggests that blue is the most favored color, followed by pink, green, red, purple and black. Brown is the least popular, followed by white, yellow and orange.

Personality traits are reflected by your preferred color. Extroverts like red, introverts blue. Yellow is the choice of intellectuals, and well-balanced individuals tend to wear green.

Use Color Positively

Use color to trigger desired emotions. Surround yourself with favorite colors to lift your spirit.  In addition to selecting colors that suit you, attend to how you feel, and the message you want to project.

When dressing for important meetings, plan your wardrobe to achieve impact.  If you wear more than one color, combine the meanings to create your desired effect.

Remember to dress with authority. The dark suit, navy or medium to dark gray, with a crisp shirt and contrasting tie is appropriate for men. A conservative navy, gray or tan business suit is suitable for women.

Create Desired Effect With Color

– Red exudes power, energy, excitement and passion. It makes peoples’ hearts beat faster.

Wear red when you want to be assertive, need an energy boost or exude sexuality. Red is effective as an accessory to project energy. Avoid red when you feel nervous, want to elude attention.

– Orange represents creativity, confidence, joy, sensuality and ambition. It suggests vibrant health and has positive effects on emotional states.

Wear orange when you want to have fun, heighten creativity or heal emotions. Avoid it when you feel restless, dependent, fearful, want to relax.

– Yellow is associated with happiness, freedom, optimism and mental concentration. Yellow speeds metabolism. Some shades suggest cowardice; golden shades promise good times.  

Wear yellow when you need to attend to details, maintain mental alertness, feel happy. Use sparingly because it can be overpowering. Avoid yellow when you’re fearful, want to evade attention, relax.

– Green suggests security, abundance, love, growth, luck and balance. It’s also associated with envy. Forest green projects conservatism, wealth, but olive green may represent illness.

Wear green when you want to see things from a different perspective, need to feel grounded, calm, generous. Don’t wear it when you’re confused, feel stagnant, want to be alone.

– Blue represents authority, structure, communication, dependability, trust and loyalty.  Some shades or too much blue can project coldness.

Wear blue when you want to exude power, have mental control, be conservative, respected or communicate an important message. Don’t wear blue when you feel isolated, depressed, critical.

– Gray is practical, timeless, cautious, successful and solid. Some shades are associated with age, depression, lack of direction. Excessive use of gray leads to feelings of being invisible, but a touch adds feelings of stability.

Wear gray when you want to feel self-sufficient, isolate yourself.  Avoid it when you feel lonely, stressed.

– Brown is associated with stability, honesty, practicality and commitment. Wear brown when you need to work hard, be a team member or organized. Avoid it when you want to expend energy, play, feel insecure.

– Pink represents love, affection and serenity. Wear it when you want to feel feminine, lovable, need to concentrate and listen. Avoid pink when you feel vulnerable, insecure, fragmented, are giving more than receiving.

– Purple is associated with prosperity, spirituality and sophistication. When overused it communicates ostentatiousness.  Wear purple to project wisdom, trust, release destructive emotions.

– Black represents power, elegance, discipline and mystery. Sometimes, it’s associated with evil and grieving.

Wear black to communicate an authoritative image or protect emotions. Since too much black can overwhelm some, don’t wear it when you want to establish rapport.

– White symbolizes purity, cleanliness, safety, completion, strength and neutrality. Wear white to feel peaceful, convey a well-balanced, optimistic personality. White is most effective as part of an ensemble. Too much can project coldness, isolation.

Make a great impression. You’re that first flash of color others see!

Author Bio: Carole Kanchier, PhD, is an internationally recognized newspaper/digital columnist, registered psychologist, coach, speaker, and author of Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life. https://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963. Kanchier has taught at University of California, Berkeley and Santa Cruz, and other institutions of higher learning. Carole Kanchier is known for her pioneering, interdisciplinary approach to human potential

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The Fall Equinox

September 22, 2020

© Carole Kanchier, PhDT

The Fall or Autumn Equinox, September 22, is one of two days in the year where the sun is directly above the equator. This means that day and night are the same length.

The Autumn Equinox isn’t a daylong event but occurs the moment the sun crosses the celestial equator — that’s at 9:31 a.m. Eastern Daylight Time.

This equinox marks the end of summer, when the days are longer than the nights, and the beginning of fall, when the days become shorter, and nights longer.

The Fall Equinox officially ushers in the new season and its promise of crisp air, show-stopping leaf displays, and cool evenings just perfect for sitting around a fire pit and spinning stories.

Ways to Celebrate the Fall Equinox

Pick apples. The Fall Equinox is a time of harvest. In olden days, it marked the final harvest of the year before villagers hunkered down with what they could pickle and can. So, apple-picking or any other orchard endeavor nearby would be a great way to partake in a “harvest” and give thanks to Mother Earth’s bounty

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5. Perform this three-part Mabon ritual The Fall Equinox is known as Mabon in the Wiccan Wheel of the Year and in other witchy and pagan circles. In my research of Mabon, I came across a lovely ritual that I can’t wait to perform on or around the Fall Equinox

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Rise Above Covid: Be a Quester

September 17, 2020
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Who are Questers?

What personality traits enable them to succeed? What gives them inspiration and courage to pursue causes important to them? Could you do the same? 
Are you a Quester? Take the Quester Quiz: http://www.questersdaretochange.com/services-2/quester-quiz/
 Questers, who have been around for centuries, represent all ages and backgrounds. They’re not perfect, but possess many characteristics needed to succeed in uncertain times.
 My research on lifelong career change and empowerment, described in Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life, describes people with Quester qualities. https://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963. 
 Questers are authentic, have a sense of purpose, courage to risk, and take charge of their lives. They’re confident, resilient, and value intrinsic rewards such as autonomy, challenge, and growth more than external rewards like status, money, and security.
 Optimistic, creative, and inner-directed, they view failure as learning experiences and measure success by internal standards. Periodically, they re-evaluate goals and make needed modifications to maintain congruence between who they are and what they do.
 Individuals, who take a more conventional approach to their careers, are Traditionalists. Committed to organizational careers, they value external rewards and measure success by how their careers measure up against the approved timetable. Although they may achieve temporary security, future options are limited. In a world of continuous change, security must come from within.
 The differences between the types lie on a continuum. Everybody needs some security, growth, and challenge, but the types have different priorities. Quester qualities are healthy and enable us to adapt to change. Questers report higher levels of self awareness, job and life satisfaction, health and longevity than Traditionalists.
 Questers create work in harmony with their purpose and move up or down the occupational prestige ladder toachieve fulfillment and growth. Career advancement, to them, means growth of the whole person.
 Fred studied mechanical engineering because he loved “fixing things.” He enjoyed his early work but not senior management. Therefore, he created a maintenance position in an apartment complex that enabled him to fix things. “If you’re doing what you like, it’s not work,” he shares. 
 Jasmine came to North America from the Philippines when 28. She wanted to “learn about the world.” Jasmine took various odd jobs while studying English and software development. After 7 years as a  software developer, Jasmine is in the process of moving to Saudi Arabia where she plans to teach software development skills and learn Arabic. Reflecting on her moves, Jasmine says, “It is challenging, but I feel confident knowing I can do things!”
 Attuned to changes within and around them, Questers anticipate layoffs. While his colleagues worried about being laid off, Chen upgraded his skills and contacted employers. He was offered a job the day he received the pink slip.
 Questers, ahead of their times may have to buck societal standards. Galileo Galilei, Italian astronomer and physicist, was considered a revolutionary by the Church. Mahatma Gandhi and Martin Luther King Jr. both risked going against the tide of popular opinion to defend causes important to them.
 Few Questers think of “retirement,” but continue involvement in meaningful paid or unpaid activities that give them purpose, direction, and continuing growth. Dr. Ephraim P. Engleman, a pioneering rheumatologist, continued his medical practice and instructed part time at University of California San Francisco, until his death at 104.
 Some Quester centenarians are attending school for the first time providing more proof you can teach old dogs new tricks.
Fortunately, we retain Quester qualities within that can be strengthened. Sometimes, crises such as layoffs, illness, and divorce precipitate self-evaluation and growth.
 Strengthen Quester Traits
- Clarify purpose. Identify themes: absorbing childhood activities, proud accomplishments, when you feel very energetic, a favorite Halloween costume.
- Be authentic. Do what’s right for you. Ensure actions are consistent with thoughts and feeling. Set goals in harmony with your purpose.

- Believe in yourself.  Focus on positive qualities. Avoid, "I can't."  Don’t compare yourself with others. Judge accomplishments against personal standards and strive for excellence.

- Continue to learn. Read, take courses, volunteer. Challenge conventional beliefs. Recognize and seize opportunities. Find better ways to do things. Try. Place no limitations on yourself.  

- Enhance courage to risk. Review three successful risks taken. Note what made these successful. Identify perceived barriers for taking another risk and explore ways to overcome these.

- Manage fear. Identify worrisome issues. Minimize these researching relevant information and resources. Live in the present. Let go of "attachments." Form a support system.
 Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Your Life provides additional tips to strengthen Quester qualities and attain desired goals. https://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963..
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– Recognize burnout is preventable, treatable, and a catalyst for growth.

– Respect yourself, establish your own standards of excellence, and do something challenging each day.

– Manage time, develop supportive relationships, and lead a balanced life.

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Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will.  Mahatma Gandhi

Self-discipline is the ability to make yourself do the things you know you ought to do, without someone making you do them.  It requires ability to control oneself and determine one’s actions, displaying self-control within and without to attain desired goals.

Self-discipline is the key trait needed to attain desired goals, and lead a healthy, happy life. Self-discipline begets sustainable, long term success in all aspects of life: diet, fitness, work, and relationships.

Research suggests people with high self control are happier and healthier than those without self control. They do not allow choices to be dictated by impulses or feelings.

Self-Discipline Tips

1. Wake up early and make your bed every morning. This sets the tone and the pattern of discipline for the rest of the day.

2. Know limitations. We all have limitations  — whether they’re snacking on potato chips or watching video games. Acknowledge shortcomings. You can minimize these.

3. Remove temptations. ”Out of sight out of mind.” This phrase offers powerful advice.  By removing big temptations from your environment you will improve self-discipline. If you want to eat healthy, don’t buy junk food.

4. Exercise. Do something physical. This gives momentum in the right direction.

5. Create a to-do list and complete tasks. Write your list the night before; then follow-up next day.

6. Don’t allow preconceived ideas get in the way of attaining desired goals. If speaking before a group is uncomfortable, find opportunities to practice speaking before friends

 7. Set clear goals and outline an execution plan. Have a clear vision of what you want to accomplish. Proper visualization by the exercise of concentration and willpower enables you to materialize thoughts, not only as dreams or visions in the mental realm but also as experiences in the material.

Break the goal down to small, doable steps. Set yourself a standard and adhere to it. Create a mantra to maintain focus.

8. Be gentle with yourself. Realize everyone experiences setbacks as they work toward goals. View setbacks as learning experiences as you work toward your goal.

9. Watch “self-talk.” Each time you catch yourself saying something that fuels lack of confidence, say “cancel,” and replace it with a more positive statement. Shift your vocabulary from being a victim to someone with power and strength.

10. Track progress. Write the action you want to accomplish daily (make your bed, read a chapter of a book, journal, exercise, call a friend, complete to-do list, etc.) and check the statement date when you’ve completed action.

Work hard. Persist.  If you want to transform your life in a positive way, make it happen. Put in the hours, the days, the weeks, and the months to accomplish desired goals. Get on the path to a better you, and stay on the path. The road requires discipline and action. Desired outcomes follow.

Expand horizons. Go beyond borders. Prepare for and welcome the unexpected. Innovate, adapt, explore, seize opportunities. Nothing is beyond reach!

Follow the examples of Questers in “Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life: http://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/150840896

 Author Bio: Carole Kanchier, PhD,is an internationally recognized newspaper/digital columnist, registered psychologist, coach, and speaker. Kanchier has taught at University of California, Berkeley and Santa Cruz, University of Alberta, other institutions of higher learning, and consults with organizations globally. Dr. Kanchier is known for her pioneering, interdisciplinary approach to human potential.

 

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Mastering Self Discipline

“Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will.”Mahatma Gand

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Are Work Habits Holding You Back?

Are your work habits holding you back? Are you aware of your bad habits? Are you settling for less than your best?

Habits are acquired behavior patterns regularly followed until they become involuntary. You may not be aware of some habits because they’re made without thinking. However, superiors and clients will catch them.

Fall is perfect time to make changes that will advance your career. Here are common bad habits and tips to eliminate them.

Good and Bad Habits

-Bad habit – Abusing time  

Good habit:  Manage time. Get up an hour earlier to think and plan. Review daily work activities to identify self-defeating habits such as underestimating time needed for tasks. Make a to-do list and prioritize tasks. Don’t try to do too much at once. Break big jobs into smaller, manageable tasks. Allow for the unexpected. Consult your schedule often and re-prioritize tasks as necessary to ensure you deliver commitments.

– Bad habit -Fearing failure

Good habit: View mistakes as opportunities. Failure is a powerful teacher.  Ask yourself: “Why did the mistake occur?”What elements were responsible?” “How can I avoid similar mistakes in the future?” If you make the same mistake twice, put the lesson in writing. Place the questions and answers where you’ll be reminded not to repeat steps which led to the error.  Measure success by how quickly you recover from mistakes.If you accept setbacks, you’ll continue to grow.

Bad habit – Criticizing co-workers

Good habit:: When you give colleagues feedback, be constructive. Offer suggestions. Don’t hover or nitpick. Resist the urge to offer advice on non-essential matters.

-Bad habit -Staying in a rut

Good habit:  Reevaluate your career goals and progress. Can your current position help you attain desired goals? If not, think of other more satisfying possibilities. Explore options in your company and field as well as different fields. Consider moving down the corporate ladder. Explore lateral positions or creatively redesign your job. Think about self employment, relocating and retraining. Devise a plan for attaining your goal.

-Bad habit – Adhering to old notions of career advancement

Good habit:: Reevaluate your definition of career development. View career growth as a lifelong process of personal and professional development — a continuing quest to maintain harmony between who you are and what you do.  Select an occupation that is congruent with your personal qualities rather than to please others or for the myth of security.

Bad habit –  Failing to maintain a healthy lifestyle

Good habit:: Find time for yourself. Work is just one component of a happy and productive life. Identify activities that would bring peace and satisfaction to your life (relationship, hobby, spiritual practices or volunteer activity). Reward your successes.

-Bad habit -Using company computer for personal matters
Good habit:  Work on personal projectsat home or during the lunch hour. Focus on tasks for which you get paid during business hours.

-Bad habit -Sending useless e-mails

Good habit:: Send relevant information only and ensure that the message content is clear. Verify each message answers the “5 Ws” (who, what, when, where, why).

-Bad habit -Practicing poor business etiquette

Good habit: Present a professional, confident image. Consider others’ feelings. Be respectful and considerate to everyone. Practice such basic courtesies as returning messages promptly,leaving concise voice mail messages,sending hand written thank you notes and greeting people when entering an office.

-Bad habit -Interrupting others

Good habit:: Value others’ opinions. Listen when they speak. Offer your opinion after people have spoken. Ask questions when you’re not clear about something. Summarize what you hear people say to correct misunderstandings. Let others know you hear what they’re feeling but not saying.

-Bad habit – Failing to give feedback and recognition

Good habit:: Let others know you appreciate their efforts or accomplishments. Feedback and praise are most effective when offered immediately and linked to specific activities, products or attributes.

-Bad habit – Abusing company expense accounts
Good habit:  Apply the same smart frugality that you use in your personal life to business expenses.  Save the company money and you will be recognized for it.

-Bad habit -Being impatient with clients

Good habit:: Value customer service. List reasons why customers are important to the business. Take a refresher course in customer service offered by your company or local college.

-Bad habit – Stealing company products

Good habit:: Don’t take products such as office supplies that belong to the organization for business uses. It’s unlawful, and can cost your professional reputation.

Recognize and eliminate poor habits

List habits that are hampering your career advancement. Ask superiors and colleagues for feedback. (Examples include: not following through on promises, not meeting deadlines, not being a team member, not being flexible, not managing conflict, and sharing personal information.

Each week, replace a bad habit with a more productive behavior. Describe how the good habit will advance your career. Observe successful people. Read. With practice, each new activity will become easier, more automatic. Stay positive, focused. Persist.

Review the many suggestions offered in award winning, Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life which redefines lifelong career decisions making. Paperback edition: https://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963

Audible edition: htps://www.audible.com/pd/Questers-Dare-to-Change-Your-Job-and-Life-Audiobook/B07VZNKGJF?asin=B07VZNKGJF&ipRedirectOverride=true&overrideBaseCountry=true&pf_rd_p=34883c04-32e5-4474-a65d-0ba68f4635d3&pf_rd_r=TN801GRP49AWQSSYMDYC1

 Author Bio: Carole Kanchier, PhD, is an internationally recognized newspaper/digital columnist, registered psychologist, coach and author of award winning, Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life.  Kanchier has taught at University of California, Berkeley and Santa Cruz, University of Alberta, and other institutions of higher learning, and worked with clients representing many disciplines. Dr. Kanchier is known for her pioneering, interdisciplinary approach to human potential.

 
 Contact: carole@daretochange.com; carole@questersdaretochange.com; www.questersdaretochange.com
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#Perseverance-Key to Success

September 10, 2020

Perseverance – Key to Success

After thousands of efforts to make the electric light bulb, Thomas Edison said, “I haven’t failed, I’ve identified 10,000 ways that it doesn’t work.” Abraham Lincoln, Marie Curie and an endless list of other contributors to humankind found that success inevitably arrives for all who persevere in pursuing their purpose.

Do you persevere? Or, after meeting rejection or difficulties, do you quit? Get sucked into social media, extra coffee breaks or other?  To get back to your work schedule try the following.

Tips for Persevering

–  Clarify your goal. Base it on your purpose, needs and abilities. Know why you want this goal and how you and others will benefit.

– Intend to achieve your goal. Outline your goal, strategies and timeline. Identify people and resources that can help you attain it. Break the goal into small steps, working backward from your desired outcome and attainment date.

– Maintain optimism. Expect good things. Keep a daily diary of positive learning experiences.

– Acknowledge accomplishments. Judge these against personal standards of self improvements. Have the courage of your convictions. Don’t change for others or compare yourself with them.

– Live in the present. Don’t dwell on the past or worry about what might happen. Let go of attachments. The more attached you are to something, the greater the fear of losing it.

– Try new experiences. Experiment with new ways of improving a product or service.. Investigate how successful individuals or teams have achieved similar goals.

– Care for mind, body, emotions and spirit. Schedule quiet times to think and reassess. Practice stress relievers such as deep breathing and exercise. Get sufficient sleep, eat healthy, and take time for fun and friends.

–  Experience yourself living your goal today. Hold your desired outcome firmly in your mind. See, smell, touch, and hear aspects of your goal. Each morning upon rising, review your goal. Repeat the process at night.

 Persist. Focus on goals daily. At regular intervals, ask yourself whether your activities are moving you forward.

Procrastination is one of the most common and deadliest of diseases and its toll on success and happiness is heavy. Wayne Gretzky

What can you do this week to move forward in your life career?

Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life, by Carole Kanchier, PhD, shows how to clarify life career goals, and develop a master plan for career success. Get a copy of Questers Dare to Change: https://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/15r-Life/dp/08408963  

Check audio edition: https://www.audible.com/pd/Questers-Dare-to-Change-Your-Job-and-Life-Audiobook/B07VZNKGJF?asin=B07VZNKGJF&ipRedirectOverride=true&overrideBaseCountry=true&pf_rd_p=34883c04-32e5-4474-a65d-0ba68f4635d3&pf_rd_r=TN801GRP49AWQSSYMDYC1

Author Bio: Carole Kanchier, PhD, is an internationally recognized newspaper/digital columnist, registered psychologist, coach and author of award winning, Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life.  Kanchier has taught at University of California, Berkeley and Santa Cruz, University of Alberta, and other institutions of higher learning, and worked with clients representing many disciplines. Dr. Kanchier is known for her pioneering, interdisciplinary approach to human potential. She is available for consultations and keynotes.

 
Contact: carole@daretochange.com; carole@questersdaretochange.com; www.questersdaretochange.com
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3 Tips for Energizing Career

September 6, 2020


Srengthen Quester traits. Take Quester Quiz: http://www.questersdaretochange.com/services-2/quester-quiz

– Overcome fear of failure. Attend to self talk. Keep log of negative thoughts, say cancel, cancel. Replace with positive thought.

– Explore desired career options within or out of current company, update skills to apply for job or create own venture.

Award winning, Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life, by Carole Kanchier, offers additional tips for energizing career and managing lifelong career decision making. https://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963

Review suggestions in Questers Dare to Change which redefines lifelong career decisions making. Paperback: https://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963

Audible:htps://www.audible.com/pd/Questers-Dare-to-Change-Your-Job-and-Life-Audiobook/B07VZNKGJF?asin=B07VZNKGJF&ipRedirectOverride=true&overrideBaseCountry=true&pf_rd_p=34883c04-32e5-4474-a65d-0ba68f4635d3&pf_rd_r=TN801GRP49AWQSSYMDYC1

 Author Bio: Carole Kanchier, PhD, is an internationally recognized newspaper/digital columnist, registered psychologist, coach and author of award winning, Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life.  Kanchier has taught at University of California, Berkeley and Santa Cruz, University of Alberta, and other institutions of higher learning, and worked with clients representing many disciplines. Dr. Kanchier is known for her pioneering, interdisciplinary approach to human potential.

 
 Contact: carole@daretochange.com; carole@questersdaretochange.com; www.questersdaretochange.com
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Tips for Lifting the Blues

August 31, 2020

The current pandemic is affecting many in numerous ways. We may have difficulty sleeping, concentrating on enjoyable activities, and have reduced or increased appetite.

We may feel sad, have depressed mood. Depression is a mood disorder that causes a persistent feeling of sadness and loss of interest and can interfere with daily functioning.

Experts report that depression is more common than coronary artery disease, cancer or AIDS. It causes greater day-to-day impairment in quality of life than diabetes, high blood pressure, arthritis or ulcers.

Depression costs industrialized countries several billion each year in treatments, absenteeism, and lost productivity and wages. Depressive illnesses are becoming a leading cause of disease in developed countries.

Many factors contribute to depression including genetics, poor diet and sleep habits, and food sensitivity. Illnesses and their treatments, drug interactions, improper metabolism and social isolation are other causes.

A family history of depression suggests biological vulnerability. Psychological makeup plays a role. Pessimistic, dependent people with low confidence who are easily overwhelmed by stress, are prone to depression. A major loss (death of a loved one, job termination) and work stress are also linked to depression. 

Symptoms of Depression

The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-V) lists the following criteria for major depression. At least five must be present every day during the same two-week period. Do any of these apply to you?

— Depressed mood most of the day.

— Diminished interest or pleasure in most activities.

— Reduced or increased appetite.

— Insomnia or excessive sleeping.

— Extreme restlessness or lethargy.

— Fatigue or loss of energy.

— Feelings of worthlessness, guilt, hopelessness or pessimism.

— Diminished ability to think, concentrate or make decisions.

— Recurrent thoughts of death or suicide.

— Irritability or excessive crying.

Although five of the foregoing suggest severe depression, take action if you checked any criterion.

Tips for managing depression

Seek professional assistance. Getting help is not a sign of weakness. Mental and medical health specialists, who practice in community health centers, hospitals, company EAP programs and private offices, offer evaluation and treatment.

Get a thorough medical examination to rule out health causes. If you have severe or chronic depression caused by a chemical imbalance, medications will be prescribed to alter brain chemical action and improve mood, sleep, appetite, energy level and concentration.

Talking with a trained counselor or psychologist can be effective in treating less severe or non chronic depression. Therapy can be helpful alone or used in combination with medication.

Sometimes, it is helpful to discuss certain work problems with a supervisor or co-workers. Focus on improving the situations, not personalities, and end talks on a positive note.

Recognize and change negative thoughts and behaviorsNegative thoughts are often unrealistic, and tend to have a generalized, exaggerated, spiraling quality.

You are what you think.You can choose to dwell on and enlarge mistakes or hurtful feelings which will contribute to depression. Or, you can stop negative thoughts and replace these with more positive, constructive ones.

If your supervisor suggests changing some part of a report, you can think, “I made another mistake. I’m useless . . .” Or, you can monitor negative thoughts, note whether you made similar mistakes before, and replace the irrational, negative belief with a more positive statement. “I haven’t made this mistake before. . .  Now I really know how to improve my reports . . .”

Focus on opportunities, constructive ways of dealing with challenges. Practice positive self-talk. Emotionally believe you can control situations. Listen to motivational quotes during your commute. 

Don’t take customer complaints personally.You’re usually the outlet for their anger and frustration with the company policies, services or products.

– Enhance confidence. Prepare a list of accomplishments and positive personality characteristics. Post this where you can read it daily. Build on accomplishments. Each day, enhance some previous performance.

Think and talk about things you want.Review fortunate experiences in a journal. Note the role belief and hard work played in achieving successes as well as strategies used.

Participate in activities that give pleasure and a sense of accomplishment. Plan enjoyable activities daily. Watch a movie, get a massage, take a class on a topic of interest, join a hiking group.

– Develop meaningful relationships. Associate with positive, supportive people who believe in your abilities. Help others as well as yourself by volunteering for a cause in which you believe.

Join a support group. You may be surprised to learn an evening with a group of depressed people can be enjoyable. Support groups provide a forum for mutual acceptance, understanding and self-discovery.

– Safeguard health. Keep a journal to chart eating and sleeping habits, and enjoyable and stressful activities. Identify factors that may be contributing to depression, and replace these with more positive ones.

Minimize stress by exercising, meditating, engaging in hobbies, and creating a relaxing morning routine. Don’t take work problems home.

– Set realistic, attainable goals. Break large tasks into small, achievable ones. Set priorities.

Postpone major life decisions, such as changing jobs or getting married. Wait until depression lifts.

Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life, by Dr. Carole Kanchier, offers numerous tips for strengthening healthy personal qualities and moving forward in your life career. https://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963

Author Bio: Carole Kanchier, PhD, is an internationally recognized newspaper/digital columnist, registered psychologist,  speaker, coach and author of award winning, Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life.  Kanchier has taught at University of California, Berkeley and Santa Cruz, University of Alberta, and other institutions of higher learning, and consulted with varied organizations. Dr. Kanchier is known for her pioneering, interdisciplinary approach to human potential.
 
Contact: carole@daretochange.com; carole@questersdaretochange.com; www.questersdaretochange.com
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Perfect #Memory for #Names

August 16, 2020

Questers Dare to Change Shows How

https://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963

Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life

 

Based on Dr. Carole Kanchier’s ongoing research with thousands of adults for over 50 years, award winning, Questers Dare to Change redefines careers and work, and shows how “Questers” perfect their memory for names.

Do you remember people’s names during and after interviews? Do you recall the names of business associates at large gatherings?

Remembering names is an appreciated courtesy you can extend to everyone at work and elsewhere. You’ll gain respect, popularity, and networking skills. You’ll advance your career. Try the following:

1. Mental set. Before attending a meeting where you’llmeet new people, mentally prepare yourself to succeed. Research names and titles of individuals who will be in attendance.

Pause between each introduction. Make eye contact with each person you meet. If possible, repeat the name of each person.

2. Observe. Identify unusual or unique facial characteristics. Notice how this face differs from others. For example, note heavy eyebrows, cleft chin, or defined cheekbones.

Exaggerate this feature to embed it in your memory. Using your imagination, mentally reconstruct the person’s face the way cartoonists do to overstate noteworthy features.

3. Associate. Create an association between that distinguishing characteristic, the face, and the name in your mind. The association may be to link the person with someone you know with the same name, or associate an image with the person’s face or defining feature.

4. Clarify name. If you’re uncertain about a person’s name, politely ask for reiteration. Confirm the correct pronunciation. Consider asking the derivative of an unusual name. This confirms interest and offers repetition. Repeat the name to yourself or aloud. “It’s a pleasure to meet you, Huang.”

5. Repeat and review. When introduced, ask the person to repeat his name. Use the name yourself as often as possible. After you’ve left that person’s company, review the name, and enter it in your business directory. Record the time, place, and date at which you’ve met each new person. Note distinctive information such as hobbies or career history.

During conversations, repeat names wherever possible. This involves people more intimately. Also repeat and spell to yourself names of new acquaintances. When leaving a new associate, reiterate the name.

6. Pace yourself. Don’t rush through introductions. Ensure you’ve made one personal comment to each person you’ve met. Intend to remember one more name than previously at each new meeting.

Memory aids may initially be time-consuming and feel clumsy. But research demonstrate they work. Rehearse the aids with everyone you meet. Enjoy the process.

Author, Dr. Carole Kanchier, career and personal growth expert, is a registered psychologist, coach, speaker and author of Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life: http://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963. Dr Kanchier is available for keynotes and consultations.

Contact: carole@daretochange.com;carole@uestersdaretochange.com    

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New vs Old Career Views

August 14, 2020

Do You Have New or Old Views of Career Advancement?

 

Automation, globalization, demographics, and insights gained from consciousness research, are changing the way we think about work, and adapt to our continuously changing work world!

Do you have old or new views of career development?

Career development

Old: Career growth means moving up the corporate ladder and measuring up against the approved professional timetable.You are what you do.

New: This is a lifelong process of development to maintain harmony between your growing personality and career. Who you are is important.

Success

Old: It’s measured by external rewards like status, respectability, money, and security.

New: It’s defined personally. Rewards are judged by personal and job satisfaction. Status means offering creative ideas.

Retirement

Old: It’s resignation, sometimes mandatory,from a long term employer at about 65. This age was set by German Chancellor Otto von Bismark in 1881.

New: Age is irrelevant. Adults reassess goals during life career transitions at about age-30 and every decade after that, and continue involvement in activities that give meaning and direction until they’re centenarians.

Managing layoffs

Old: Employees wait for the notice. Job search focuses on responding to ads and accepting a secure job in the same occupation and industry.

New: Employees attend to job and company happenings. They continuously prepare for career growth by upgrading skills for another job within their company, creating their own ventures, taking time out, or returning to school full or part time.

Management Style

Old: Organizations have centralized hierarchichal “command and-and-control” structures. Employees are told what to do, don’t question status quo.

New: Organizations employ decentralized “coordinate and cultivate” management with loose structures. Employees participate in decisions, think critically.

Succeeding in Uncertain Times

Take responsibility for your career.

– Know yourself. In particular, clarify your purpose. This is your compass which guides you through chaos. Identify personal and transferable skills. Skills and knowledge used in one occupation can be transferred to others. These adaptive skills include openness to ideas, persistence, creativity, enthusiasm, problem solving, patience, tolerance, and perseverance.

– Strengthen Quester qualities such as optimism, growth, and resilience. Learn how to learn. Continuously update technical, professional and adaptive skills.

– Explore compatible options.  Investigate other jobs in your organization. Explore another field or self employment. Consider time out. Study, travel, volunteer. Consider the trades.

– Network. Let others know what you can offer and want. Create opportunities to meet people. Think of yourself as a product to be sold.  Demonstrate how you can make or save money, manage people, improve products, expand markets.

– Strengthen mind power. Skills for tomorrow, called “meta skills,” can’t be easily automated. They include critical thinking, intuition, research, judgment, ethical leadership, mental training, interpersonal, and “Quester” traits.

– Expand horizons. Go beyond borders. Prepare for and welcome the unexpected.  Innovate, adapt, explore, seize opportunities!

Review the many suggestions offered in award winning, Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life, which redefines lifelong career decisions making. Paperback edition: https://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963

Check audible edition: htps://www.audible.com/pd/Questers-Dare-to-Change-Your-Job-and-Life-Audiobook/B07VZNKGJF?asin=B07VZNKGJF&ipRedirectOverride=true&overrideBaseCountry=true&pf_rd_p=34883c04-32e5-4474-a65d-0ba68f4635d3&pf_rd_r=TN801GRP49AWQS

Best wishes with your life career quest.

Carole Kanchier, PhD

carole@questersdaretochange.com; carole@daretochange.com

http://www.questersdaretochange.com

 Author Bio: Carole Kanchier, PhD, is an internationally recognized newspaper/digital columnist, registered psychologist, coach and author of award winning, Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life.  Kanchier has taught at University of California, Berkeley and Santa Cruz, University of Alberta, and other institutions of higher learning, and worked with clients representing varied disciplines and organizations. Dr. Kanchier is known for her pioneering, interdisciplinary approach to human potential. She is available for consultations and keynotes.

 
 Contact: carole@daretochange.com; carole@questersdaretochange.com; http://www.questersdaretochange.com
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