Surveys suggest most who won lotteries would continue to work. Would you?
Do you live to work or work to live? Or, do you have challenges separating the two?
If you work for a paycheck, you probably work to live. If you’re engrossed in enjoyable activities, you might live to work. Separating work and non-work activities suggests you may strive for balance. Tips for clarifying and creating your desired lifestyle are given.
Surveys suggest most who won lotteries would continue to work. Would you?
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Tips for Strengthening Telephone Etiquette
- Knowledge: Before you make a call have the required information.
- Goals: Know what you want to accomplish.
- Attitude: Make the receiver feel that you’re interested in him or her and the message.
— Make a great first impression. Show the caller that you’re helpful, confident and competent. If a potential employer’s first contact is over the phone, she gets cues from your voice.
You can influence your listener’s reactions by controlling the pace, pitch, inflection and tone of your voice. Strive for an energy level that matches your normal conversation. A soft voice suggests shyness or uncertainty; a loud voice implies anger or worry. Be alert to your caller’s needs. If he’s having trouble hearing, speak louder, more slowly.
Speak briskly but pronounce words clearly. When you talk too fast, you sound hurried or excited and are difficult to understand; when you too speak slowly, you sound tired, lazy or uninterested.
Inflection adds special meaning to your message. If, for example, you say, “–John– needs help with his resume this afternoon,” you’re suggesting John needs help. If you say, “John needs help with his resume — this afternoon, — your indicating he needs help this afternoon.
Different tones of voice can make us feel differently — happy, angry, hurt, etc. Keep your tone attentive, interested and friendly. Smiling adds a pleasant tone to your voice.
— Be courteous. People are turned off by careless or rude remarks. Always say hello and identify yourself. Ask how you can help. Use courtesy words, “Thank you for waiting.” If you need to put the caller on hold, ask, and wait for an answer. If you need to phone back, indicate when you’ll call.
End the call positively, for example, “Thanks for calling.” Let the caller hang up first. This gives him control of the ending as well as an opportunity to ask further questions. Don’t eat, drink, or chew gum.
— Leave clear, concise messages. State your name and phone number. Repeat these twice. Give the name of the person you’re calling and date and time you called. If the person doesn’t return your call, phone again a few days later. For other message skills, review the telephone savvy questions.
— Ace the job phone interview. If you’re not prepared to speak with an employer who calls you, ask the employer if you can return the call, or if he can call back at a mutually convenient time. This gives you time to prepare.
Your confidence and career advancement will improve as you hone your phone skills.
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Are You Telephone Savvy?
The telephone is the most common business tool and its proper use is essential for career advancement.
Are you telephone savvy?
When you make calls do you:
- State your message briefly and clearly?
- Leave your name, organization and phone number, repeating these twice, slowly and clearly?
- Give the full name of the person for whom you’re leaving the message?
- State the date and time of the call?
- State whether you’ll call back or you’d like the other person to call?
- Ask for a return call at a time you’ll be available?
When you receive calls, do you:
- Identify yourself?
- Use courtesies such as “Please hold while I complete another call?”
- Offer to take messages when you’re answering for someone?
- Repeat the caller’s name and number to make sure they’re correct?
- Speak in a professional manner?
- Does your answering machine have a pleasant, professional and courteous message? Leave a good impression?
Scoring: Give yourself one point for each “yes.” The higher your score, the more telephone skills you possess. A score of 9 or less suggests you could enhance your skills.
Tips for strengthening telephone etiquette are reviewed in my next column: www.questersdaretochange.com/blog. Additional tips are discussed in “Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life” http://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963
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Beat the Holiday Doldrums
We’re supposed to look forward to the holiday season and hope that it will be a time of happiness, friendliness, and peace. Yet often our anticipation and excitement turns into feelings of depression, commonly called holiday blues. Symptoms can include headaches, anxiety, sadness, insomnia, intestinal problems, and conflict with family and friends.
Part of what happens during the holiday season, in terms of mood changes and anxiety, may occur because of the stressfulness of holiday events. Overdrinking, overeating, and fatigue may contribute to mood changes. Other seasonal demands include shopping, cooking, travel, house guests, family reunions, office parties, and extra financial burdens. Some may have a hard time adjusting to the colder, shorter days. Our current economy may exacerbate stressed or depressed feelings.
Beating holiday doldrums
- Organize time. Don’t overbook your schedule.
- Create time for yourself to do the things you enjoy: yoga, massage, spiritual practices, music, exercise or any activity you find relaxing
- Treat yourself. Identify something you’ve always wanted to do such as make jewelry or wine, paint, or take a trip! Enjoy small pleasures such as walking in the park or watching toddlers play.
- Create something for others. Hand paint holiday cards. Make candy bars and wrap theses individually in paper you designed. Design a label for that wine you made and give a bottle to coworkers! Creativity feeds the soul and focuses the mind.
- Host a casual dinner or pot luck party. Reach out to people you’d like to get to know better.
- Watch a funny video or film. Play silly or childhood games. Have a costume party. Laughter is a great healer!
- Practice gratitude. Be thankful for things you have. When you focus on what you have, rather than what you lack, you emanate energy of abundance, and have courage to face each day with hope and determination.
- Respect yourself. Engage in positive self-talk. Reward yourself for completing a challenging project. Reinforce the positive in yourself and others. Develop a sense of humor and learn to laugh at yourself.
- Keep problems in perspective. See the glass half full. View mistakes and setbacks as learning experiences. Note what you’ve learned from a recent setback.
- Volunteer to help underprivileged. Offer to serve holiday dinner at a homeless shelter or take a small gift to a hospitalized child.
- Relax. Use techniques such as meditation and creative visualization to rejuvenate yourself. Leave worries outside of the bedroom and try to sleep at least seven hours every night.
- Develop support systems. Cultivate meaningful relationships. These can be built from a variety of people including work associates, neighbors, family members, or club members. Talk about frustrations to trusted individuals, or seek professional advice.
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Authenticity is a crucial skill for changing times. The word, “authenticity” comes from the Greek root authentikos, meaning “original, genuine, principal.” Authentic people are genuine, self actualizing and have a sense of purpose. Along with fearless passion and courage, they possess strong mental discipline.
Authenticity does not come from title, social stature, or wealth, but rather from how we live. That is, how we go about pursuing our purpose and making a contribution in our own unique way. Authentic people prevail in changing times because they are in harmony with the energy of the universe. Most Questers, described in “Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life,” are authentic.
How authentic are you?
Check qualities you possess. I …
1 perform daily activities in unique ways
2 work hard
3 share honest opinions
4 enjoy being alone
5 am self aware
6 am curious
7 love intellectual stimulation
8 am respectful of others
9 recognize inter-relationships
10 seek new opportunities
11 exude vibrancy
12 care about environmental issues
13 live in the moment
Scoring: The more statements you checked, the more authentic you seem to be.
To be authentic, you must understand who you are, what you want to be, and how you want to fit in the world. You should be self-guided.
– Build self esteem. Confidence gives you courage to set high expectations, to risk, to grow, to be authentic. Acknowledge your accomplishments. Prepare a list of positive achievements and personality characteristics. Post this where you can read it daily. Don’t change to please others or compare yourself to or compete with others.
– Stretch yourself. Constantly push the envelope, raising standards. Challenge conventional beliefs and paths. Travel uncharted territories. Although this may invoke disappointments, accepting and growing through challenges enhances authenticity.
– Be in the moment. Engage yourself completely in the activity at hand.
– Maintain perspective. Time and distance can make mountains seem like molehills. Don’t let what happened yesterday affect what will happen tomorrow. Face each challenge with an open mind. Look upon setbacks as one step toward growth and authenticity.
– Focus on the positive. Look for and expect good things. Each time you catch yourself thinking something negative, replace it with a more positive thought.
– Strengthen resilience. Note what you’ve learned from traumatic experiences. Indicate how these have made you stronger, wiser, more authentic. Identify early cues that you’ve ignored, and what you’d now do differently.
– Bolster courage to risk. Review three successful risks taken. Note what made these successful. Identify perceived barriers for taking another risk, and explore ways to overcome them.
– Manage fear. Identify worrisome issues. Minimize these by researching relevant information and resources. Live in the present. Let go of “attachments.”
– Create a life in which you continue to grow and have choices. Make choices in harmony with your authentic self. Use your Quester power. “Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life” shows you how: www.questersdaretochange.com
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“He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.” Friedrich Nietzsche.
Do you jump out of bed Monday mornings and look forward to the week?
Do you have a clear sense of purpose?
Having a sense of purpose and striving towards goals that enable you to express your purpose gives life meaning, direction and satisfaction. It not only contributes to health and longevity, but also enables you to succeed in challenging times.
Discover if you know your purpose
Answer “yes” or “no:”
- Facing my daily tasks is very satisfying.
- I have clear career and life goals.
- My life has been worthless.
- I enjoy my close friends.
- I wouldn’t change my life drastically if I had six months to live.
- I have seriously thought of suicide.
- I see a reason to be here.
- My job gives my life meaning.
- I have little meaning in my life.
- I spend my life doing what I “should” rather than what I want.
Scoring: One for each “no” to statements 3, 6, 9 and 10; and one for each “yes” to others. The higher you score, the more you’re involved in activities that give you a sense of meaning, direction and satisfaction; 6 or lower suggests you lack a clear sense of purpose.
Tips for clarifying purpose
Identifying your purpose will take time particularly if you’re not used to looking inward.
— Identify what’s important to you. Clarify what success means to you. Don’t try to live up to others’ expectations and definitions of success.
— Consider how you’d change your life if you knew you had six months to live. If you would change jobs, return to school, complete a project, then get on with it! What’s stopping you?
— State what you’d do if you had billions. If you’re working at something that has no meaning just to pay bills, you’re making money more important than your sense of purpose. How could you make money doing what you really enjoy?
— Identify personality traits you would choose if you could begin life today. Would you be more assertive, caring or other?
— Describe yourself without using labels. Specify human qualities, for example: “I am smart, creative, and a loving partner.” If you resort to labels such as job history or marital status, you may view yourself as a statistic rather than a special human being.
— Adopt a cause. Discover ways in which you can get involved in community projects. Volunteer to help in seniors. Join a community group that fights for a cause in which you believe.
— Identify major themes or patterns: 1) Proud accomplishments in any life area (social, work, school, civic); 2) What you want colleagues to say about you; 3) Absorbing childhood activities; 4) Recurring dream; 5) What you’d do if you couldn’t fail; 6) A prize you’d select (literary, athletic) for being the world’s best; 7) What you’d wear to a costume party; 8) People you admire and why; 9) Skills you want to use in your ideal job.
Write a “working” mission statement describing your purpose based on recurring themes. Discuss your themes with a partner. Brainstorm how your purpose can be expressed in various life components. For example, if your purpose is to help others, you could express it at work by being a helpful sales clerk. In family activities, you may express your purpose by being a loving aunt. Don’t allow age, lack of education, or physical disability stop you from expressing your mission.
Charlene’s purpose is caring for animals. She’s made this into her business — caring for pets during their families’ vacations and waking dogs. Charles purpose is communications. He’s been a successful magazine editor, author, broadcaster, photographer and evangelist.
Purpose is a common denominator for success. Knowing your purpose will give you courage to do what you’ve always longed to do. It will be easier to risk, to manage fear. You’ll be able to change your life for the better.
“You can have anything you want if you want it badly enough …” Abraham Lincoln.
TAG: Dr. Carole Kanchier pioneered the concept of purpose into her work on career and personal growth. A registered psychologist, coach, consultant and syndicated columnist, she is author of the groundbreaking, award-winner, Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Your Life.
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After Labor Day we enter a productive time of year. But sometimes we may find it challenging to stay on task.
Do you let your mind wander? Welcome interruptions? Get sucked into social media, extra coffee breaks or other?
If you find yourself slipping out of the “work mode” these motivational quotes may help get your mind where it needs to be.
- “It seems the harder I work, the more luck I have.” – Thomas Jefferson
- “Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does.” – William James
- Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve. –Napoleon Hill
- Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value. –Albert Einstein
- I attribute my success to this: I never gave or took any excuse. –Florence Nightengale
- You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. –Wayne Gretzky
- The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity. –Amelia Earhart
- Definiteness of purpose is the starting point of all achievement. –W. Clement Stone
- The mind is everything. What you think you become. –Buddha
- Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. –Steve Jobs
- “He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.” ― Friedrich Nietzsche
- As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live. –Johann Wolfgang von Goeth
Purpose and Perseverance Are Keys to Success
After thousands of efforts to make the electric light bulb, Thomas Edison said, “I haven’t failed, I’ve identified 10,000 ways that it doesn’t work.” Helen Keller, Abraham Lincoln, Marie Curie and an endless list of other contributors to humankind found that success inevitably arrives for all who persevere in pursuing their purpose.
Do you persevere? Or, after meeting rejection or difficulties, do you quit?
Tips for Persevering
– Clarify your goal. Base it on your purpose, needs and abilities. Know why you want this goal and how you and others will benefit.
– Intend to achieve your goal. Outline your goal, strategies and timeline. Identify people and resources that can help you attain it. Break the goal into small steps, working backward from your desired outcome and attainment date.
– Maintain optimism. Expect good things. Keep a daily diary of good experiences.
– Acknowledge accomplishments. Judge these against personal standards of self improvements. Have the courage of your convictions. Don’t change for others or compare yourself with them.
– Live in the present. Don’t dwell on the past or worry about what might happen. Let go of attachments. The more attached you are to something, the greater the fear of losing it.
– Try new experiences. Experiment with new ways of improving a product or service.. Investigate how successful individuals or teams have achieved similar goals.
– Care for mind, body, emotions and spirit. Schedule quiet times to think and reassess. Practice stress relievers such as deep breathing and exercise. Get sufficient sleep, eat healthy, and take time for fun and friends.
– Experience yourself living your goal today. Hold your desired outcome firmly in your mind. See, smell, touch, and hear aspects of your goal. Each morning upon rising, review your goal. Repeat the process at night.
Persist. Focus on goals daily. At regular intervals, ask yourself whether your activities are moving you forward. Additional success secrets are found in Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life: http://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963
Dr. Carole Kanchier is a registered psychologist, coach, speaker, internationally syndicated columnist and author of the groundbreaking, award winner, “Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Your Life”: http://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963
What does Labor Day mean to you? Labor Day is so much a part of our culture that we rarely pause to consider its purpose and meaning.
Labor Day is a public holiday in U.S. and Canada that is dedicated to workers across the countries. The holiday always falls on the first Monday in September. Labor Day weekend is also considered the unofficial end of summer.
Test your Labor Day IQ
Answer T (True) or F (False):
1. Labor Day is the affirmation of the dignity and worth of workers.
2. Labor Day began in Canada in 1872 3. In the US, the first Labor Day was held in 1883.
4. Many view Labor Day as a day of rest.
5. A trade or labor union is an association of workers whose purpose is to improve economic status and working conditions primarily through strikes.
6. The term “closed shop” refers to company that hires only nonunion members.
7. Elton Mayo’s research demonstrated that workers were more motivated by recognition and social interaction than by material rewards.
8. Historically, labor unions developed in response to the worldwide economic depression.
9. In the process of collective bargaining, an employer agrees to discussing working condition with a government mediator.
10. The phrase, “Work is the curse of the drinking classes,” is attributed to Oscar Wild.
1. True. Labor Day is the affirmation of the dignity and worth of workers.
2. True. Labor Day began in Canada in 1872, when the Toronto Trades Assembly organized the first significant workers’ demonstration to support exploited workers.
3. True. In the US, the first Labor Day, held in 1883, stemmed from the desire of the Central Labor Union to create a workers’ holiday.
4. True. Many view Labor Day as a day of rest, the end of summer, a last chance to make trips or hold outdoor events.
5. False. A trade or labor union is an association of workers whose purpose is to improve economic status and working conditions primarily through collective bargaining.
6. False. The term “closed shop” refers to company that hires only union members.
7. True. Elton Mayo’s research demonstrated that workers were more motivated by recognition and social interaction than by material rewards.
8. False. Historically, labor unions developed in response to the Industrial Revolution.
9. False. In the process of collective bargaining, an employer agrees to discussing conditions with employee representatives usually a labor union.
10. True. The phrase, “Work is the curse of the drinking classes,” is attributed to Oscar Wild.
How has the meaning and structure of work changed since the late 19 Century?
During our great grandparents’ era, scientific management, based on the belief that most workers were stupid, introduced authoritarian procedures to increase productivity. Money was their reward. Industrial capitalism and the corporate bureaucracy strengthened the idea that only top management had intelligence to make decisions. Unions organized to give workers a greater voice.
In the 1920s, management began questioning these beliefs. Elton Mayo’s research in the 30s demonstrated workers were more motivated by recognition and social interaction than by material rewards. Companies subsequently introduced various incentives to increase employee motivation and productivity.
Ongoing technological, economic, and social changes are forcing us to continue reassessment of views regarding job satisfaction, efficiency and career growth.
Are you ready for the changes and challenges of the 2020s and beyond?
What’s next for you?
“Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life” by Carole Kanchier shows how to move forward.
Dr. Carole Kanchier is a registered psychologist, educator, columnist and author of the award-winning, groundbreaking book, Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life: http://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963