Surveys suggest most who won lotteries would continue to work. Would you?
Do you live to work or work to live? Or, do you have challenges separating the two?
If you work for a paycheck, you probably work to live. If you’re engrossed in enjoyable activities, you might live to work. Separating work and non-work activities suggests you may strive for balance. Tips for clarifying and creating your desired lifestyle are given.
Surveys suggest most who won lotteries would continue to work. Would you?
Job dissatisfaction is a reliable indicator that a person is at high risk for high blood pressure, heart attacks, and strokes. Studies indicate that heart rate and blood pressure shoot up on Monday mornings. This may explain why there are more heart attacks on Mondays than any other day of the week. Dissatisfied workers also tend to have greater risk of accidents and injuries than satisfied employees.
Occupational stress has been defined as a “global epidemic” by the United Nations’ International Labor Organization. As for business, The World Health Organization estimates that stress costs American businesses $300 billion dollars a year in absenteeism, low productivity, staff turnover, workers’ compensation, medical
insurance, and other stress-related expenses. More than one-third of American workers experience chronic work stress, according to a 2013 national survey by the American Psychological Association’s Center for Organizational Excellence.
Low salaries, lack of opportunity for advancement, and heavy workloads top the list of contributing factors. Of course, stress is a factor in every one’s life, particularly during major events such as marriage, divorce, or buying a home. But according to the Holmes-Rahe Life Stress Inventory, which rates the levels of stress caused by such events, many of the most stressful events are related to the workplace: firings, business readjustments, changes in financial status, altered responsibilities, a switch to a different line of work, trouble with the boss, variations in work hours or conditions, retirement, and vacations.
Stress is not always a bad thing, though. It can stimulate creativity and productivity. No one reaches peak performance without being stressed, whether an athlete or an office worker. A moderate amount of stress keeps people on their toes, enables them to juggle multiple tasks, and puts them on high alert for potential problems. A bit of tension can also help employees face challenges and discover new ways to tackle obstacles.
But too much stress tends to diminish performance. Researchers say that employees need a moderate amount of stress to provide challenge and success, but not enough to quash performance.
Is it too much to go to work?
Responding “yes” or “no” to the following, may help you clarify whether you should consider a job shift or stay put.
1. Is your body sending you messages? Do you have lingering colds? Trouble getting out of bed on work days?
2. Are you constantly thinking, “I can hardly wait till Friday?” Do you often watch the clock?
3. Do you frequently daydream on the job?
4. Do you call in sick even when you’re not?
5. Do you arrive late for work often?
6. Have your performance and productivity slipped?
7. Do you have many disagreements with colleagues or superiors?
8. Do you feel withdrawn at work?
9. Does the prospect of spending a whole day at work get you down?
10. Will leaving the organization enable you to achieve your career dreams more quickly?
11. Is your work damaging your self confidence? Health? Personal and family life? Other?
To nurture your career, act.
If you’re convinced a job move is in order, go for it! Here’s some advice:
– Define and overcome barriers. Describe any blocks that are preventing you from making a move. Examples could be fear of losing a secure income, pension or other benefits; fear that you will lose power, prestige; fear of having to live up to an image, making a mistake, or being embarrassed; not knowing where to begin a new job search; or guilt that change may interfere with relationships.
– Know you have many options. These include changing departments in the same organization, shifting employers, changing occupational fields, becoming self employed, taking a sabbatical or returning to school for upgrading or retraining.
– Investigate career options. Research and planning will reduce risk. For example, if you want to return to school or start your own business, and fear reduced income, you can learn to live on less, work part-time while pursing your goal and borrow money from family or the bank.
– Avoid guilt. Don’t worry about letting everyone down, or what your colleagues may think. Don’t idealize your former position. Don’t mourn a job that is no longer meeting your needs.
– Don’t stay in a job you dislike because of security. Security is wishful thinking. But developing positive attitudes, believing in yourself, working hard, and developing the will to risk will enable you to prevail.
– Realize change involves tradeoffs. Change may involve some temporary personal or financial sacrifices. But most Questers agree that in the long term, their gains far outweigh their losses. Greater satisfaction, independence, flexibility and control over personal and work lives are some benefits acquired.
– Listen to yourself. Don’t base your self-respect on what other’s think. Listening to your feelings will help you identify what you really want. If you make the move that’s right for you, you will succeed. Better relationships with family and friends are often added benefits.
– Don’t make excuses. If you feel stagnant, deciding to stay can be as traumatic as moving. Staying in a job with no hope of advancement or satisfaction is self defeating and risky. Stress, illness, and loss of enthusiasm, self-confidence and employability may result.
– Don’t fear failure. Setbacks are learning experiences. Successful changers eliminate much failure by planning and persisting. If they do fail, and they do, they say, “I’ve done my best. … I’m only human.” Then they figure out what went wrong, modify their plans and try again.
For additional tips, refer to Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life. https://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/15r-Life/dp/08408963
© Carole Kanchier, PhD
With continuing technological advances, and accompanying economic, social, and climate changes, psychologist, Dr. Carole Kanchier, encourages people to strengthen Quester traits to succeed. Questers are highlighted in the revised 6th edition of the award winning, life changing book, Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life.
Who are Questers? What personality traits give them confidence and courage to take charge of their lives? Are you a Quester? Could you become one?
Questers offers powerful, positive information for people needing knowledge and strategies to understand and control their lives. It presents a developmental, inspirational approach to growth and revitalization. Questers helps individuals understand how they grow and change through life, where they fit in the career and life cycles, and how to make important decisions.
By referring to real life examples of “Questers,” representing varied occupations, people are encouraged to move beyond traditional thinking about careers. Questers not only inspires readers to rethink their lives, it shows them how!
Questers have been around for centuries. Famous Questers include Galileo Galilei, the Italian physicist who proved the earth revolved around the sun, and J.K. Rowling, author of the Harry Potter series.
Yet, many Questers are folks who have courage and confidence to pursue their dreams. Jessie came to North America from China when she was 30. She took survival jobs while studying English and computers. Jesse was promoted in her computer job. Now 40, Jesse is reassessing values and goals. Jesse is experiencing her age-40 transition.
Although we have our own rhythms of change, growing adults alternate between transitional and developmental periods throughout life. Transitions, which generally begin in our late teens or early 20s and occur every decade following, are times for questioning who we are and where we want to go. Experiences such as marriage, divorce, illness or job loss precipitate and intensify appraisals during transitions. Jessie’s age-40 transition was triggered by a car accident.
Attuned to changes within and around them, Questers anticipate layoffs and know voluntary and involuntary career changes are a normal part of growth. Therefore, quitting a job during a recession may be smart. While his colleagues worried about being laid off, Mike upgraded his skills and contacted employers. He was offered a job the day he received his pink slip.
Questers create work that’s in harmony with their purpose. As a child, Fred loved fixing things so he studied mechanical engineering. He had been promoted to senior management within a large organization, but wasn’t happy. Fred realized he couldn’t express his passion – fixing things. So, he pursued his purpose by becoming a maintenance man in an apartment complex. “If you’re doing something you like, it’s not really work, and you’re making money…” Fred radiates joy.
Questers measure success internally. Fred had confidence and courage to create his own satisfying job. Success to Questers means moving up or down the occupational prestige ladder to achieve fulfillment and growth. Questers are productive because they enjoy work and set high standards.
Not all Questers live to work. Some work to live. Lorrie’s calling is to enjoy life. “I work to support my lifestyle…Although I get satisfaction from doing a good job, I devote my life to hobbies and volunteer activities.”
Retirement is obsolete to Questers. John, a professor, says; “I could retire, but choose not to because work is too much fun…”If I wasn’t paid, I would continue to work. If I retire, there is only one thing left!
We’re all born Questers. However, as we grow older, societal institutions inhibit development of Quester traits. Fortunately, we retain Quester traits within and can strengthen these, if we desire.
Are You a Quester?
Answer yes or no:
- When I want something, I’m willing to risk.
- I pursue goals in harmony with my purpose.
- I’m usually optimistic.
- I like trying new things.
- I place more value on growth than security, money, prestige.
- I periodically reassess goals.
- I make my own decisions, and if necessary, swim against the tide.
- I turn crises into opportunities.
Scoring: 6 or more “yeses” suggests you may be a Quester
Nurturing the Quester Spirit
Security is an illusion. To prevail in changing times, strengthen Quester traits.
– Focus on the positive. Think about who you want to be and do. Look for and expect good things to happen. Avoid phrases such as, “I can’t.”
– Continue to learn. Read, take courses.
– Use intellect and intuition when making decisions. Research needed information, then use intuition. For example, ask dreams a question before falling asleep, journal, meditate, relax in nature.
– Do what you feel is right for you, not what others think.
– Manage Fear. Live in the present. Don’t worry about what might happen. Let go of “attachments.”
– Believe in yourself. You can attain your dream!
Questers are described in the inspiring, groundbreaking, Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Your Life: https://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/15r-Life/dp/08408963
A free copy of chapter one is available from Carole Kanchier’s web site: www.questersdaretochange.com.
Best selling author, internationally recognized author/columnist, registered psychologist, coach and speaker
Career and human potential expert, Dr. Carole Kanchier challenges adults to realize their potential. In her acclaimed, life changing book, Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life, Kanchier encourages people to review their views of career success, and strengthen Quester traits such as purpose, intuition, and resilience to succeed. Dr. Kanchier chaired the Career Change Committee, National Career Development Association, taught at University of California Berkeley and Santa Cruz, University of Alberta, and other institutions of higher learning. Her columns have been syndicated by World Wide Media, CanWest Newswire, and numerous print and digital publications. Dr. Kanchier is a guest on varied North American media broadcasts.
We both send and receive conscious and subconscious nonverbal messages. Experts say that 70 to 90 percent of communication is nonverbal.
Gain a competitive edge in the business world. Attend to nonverbal messages. What you say as well as how you say it give you advantages during interviews, presentations, company meetings and client negotiations.
Check your body language knowledge
Answer “true” or “false.”
1. Eye contact is disrespectful in some cultures.
2. Listeners who look away from speakers demonstrate confusion or disbelief.
3. Eagerness is exhibited with simultaneous displays of smiling and head nodding.
4. Confidence is exhibited by hands in pockets.
5. Well-dressed professionals project success, credibility.
6. Placing both hands behind the head reveals self-doubt.
7. Speakers who make eye contact with listeners increase credibility.
8. It’s best to interpret nonverbal communication along with simultaneous verbal communication.
9. When conducting business, it’s best to stand or sit at the client’s level.
10. Defensiveness is indicated by arms crossed high on chest and crossed legs.
Scoring: One point for each “true” to statements 1, 2, 3, 5, 7, 8, 9; and 10; and “false” to 4 and 6. The higher your score, the more you understand nonverbal communication. A low score suggests you could enhance body language knowledge. Consider the following:
Nonverbal communication tips
– Eye contact and facial expressions. Establish eye contact to demonstrate open communication flow, and convey honesty, interest, warmth and credibility. Smile frequently to encourage approachability. Smiling transmits happiness, friendliness.
– Body orientation and movements. To show approachability, lean slightly forward to face the person with whom you’re communicating.
Be aware of positive and negative messages sent by other cues. Boredom is indicted by looking away from speaker, sloppy posture or preoccupation with something else.
Attentive listening is demonstrated by cupping chin between thumbs and fingers or putting hands to bridge of nose. Expanded chests communicate confidence in men and openness in women, while shrunken chests convey self-consciousness.
Dishonesty is demonstrated by frequent eye blinking, covering mouth or looking away while speaking. Insecurity is exhibited by hands in pockets, fidgeting, coughing or hand wringing.
– Gestures. Some hand and arm gestures while speaking are good; they demonstrate animation and capture interest. But excessive gestures turn some off, and not using any suggests no enthusiasm. Head nods communicate interest and positive reinforcement.
In today’s business world touch is avoided because of “sexual implications.” However, touch demonstrates “You’re OK.”
– Interpersonal distance. Too much or too little space between people causes discomfort. Signals of uneasiness include rocking, leg swinging, tapping.
Appropriate amount of space for intimate communication is one and one/half feet or less. Close interpersonal contact requires one and one/half to four feet, and business transactions need four to 12 feet. Formal communications are beyond 12 feet.
– Vocal cues and linguistics. Speak in a level, modulated voice. Talk loud enough to be heard, but don’t shout. A low voice can make a strong point.
Vary the tone, pitch, rhythm, timbre, loudness and inflection of your voice. Monotone suggests boredom. High pitch suggests excitement, and low pitch projects anger.
A rhythmic voice pattern projects confidence, authority. Irregular speech is considered thoughtful or uncertain. Slow speech frustrates listeners. Speaking too fast suggests nervousness, and is difficult to understand.
– Physical appearance and grooming. Project a confident, energetic, enthusiastic, professional image.
Look savvy, contemporary. Maintain standards of good taste. Dress according to company norms. Coordinate pieces. Wear spotless, well-tailored clothes. Maintain shoes, have hair cut professionally. Avoid strong fragrances, bulging briefcases.
Stand tall, sit erect. Slumping posture projects subservience, exhaustion and age.
– Handshake. Convey a positive first impression. Communicate power, confidence and sincerity with a firm grip. Support your grip with consistent nonverbal messages. A loose handshake projects weakness, insecurity. A vice-like grip suggests intimidation and causes pain. Use a handshake after an agreement to symbolically seal it
Awareness of nonverbal behaviors enables you to send positive messages and eliminate destructive ones. To improve nonverbal communication, videotape yourself interacting with others. Ask a friend to suggest refinements. Practice those you want to perfect.
Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life, by Dr. Kanchier, offers additional communications strategies. https://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963
Fall, a season of transformations, may be the time to dare yourself to change, welcome new opportunities!
Review your views of career success, and strengthen Quester traits such as purpose, intuition, and resilience to succeed.
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Austrian psychologist, Alfred Adler (1870–1937) pioneered the study of birth order which continues to interest researchers today. Adler believed that humans have a strong need to be accepted and valued, and that family is the first social group in which people strive for belonging.
Children in any given family each strive for their parents’ love, attention and resources. And depending on where a child falls in the family, he or she responds differently. Factors that influence personality development are not about ordinal position, rather the interpretation the child gives to the position.
The importance of birth order is an ongoing argument among social scientists. Personality and career development may be influenced by a number of factors including childhood illness or trauma, five or more years between two children, large family, divorce, blended families, and being the only girl in a family of boys or vice versa. Economics, family moves, death of a parent and grandparents moving into the family circle may also create different experiences and interpretations.
Numerous researchers have demonstrated how birth order is related to career selection and success. Twenty-one of the first 23 astronauts were first borns, and over half the United States presidents have been first born. First borns are also over-represented among US Supreme Court justices, Rhodes Scholars, academics, physicians, leading scientists, and Ivy league universities.
There are no good or bad birth order positions. Each has advantages and disadvantages. Where do you fit?
Eldest Child. In general, first borns are responsible, assertive, task-oriented, perfectionists and supporters of authority. They get leading and mentoring experience by looking after younger siblings.
First borns learn that if they follow parents’ wishes they gain approval. They acquire status by working hard and not making waves. Conservative conformists, first borns are conscientious, serious, logical, scholarly and status conscious. They tend to have higher academic achievement and possibly higher intelligence scores than later borns.
First borns often choose occupations that require precision, such as careers in science, medicine, law, engineering, computer science or accounting. Political and business leaders, journalists, executive secretaries and bookkeepers are also popular careers. Famous first borns include Winston Churchill, Bill and Hillary Clinton, and Oprah Winfrey.
Middle Children. Middle borns are generally independent nonconformists. Competition with siblings tends to make them noncompetitive and diplomatic. Often even-tempered, they may assume a take it or leave it attitude. Less fearful and anxious than first borns, some have maverick tendencies.
Many are socially skilled because they have learned to negotiate and compromise. They’re creative, adaptive, and tend to be good listeners. They can create harmonious interpersonal relationships, and achieve success from superior teamwork.
Some middle children capitalize on the injustices they feel as children and become trial lawyers or social activists. Popular occupations selected by them include entrepreneur, social worker, mediator, middle level manager and real estate agent. George Washington, John F. Kennedy, Madonna and Alfred Adler are middle borns.
— Youngest Child. Later borns are typically more gregarious, carefree, affectionate and persuasive than firstborns. They’re open to new experiences and may be manipulative, using charm to get their way. Parents may have lower expectations for their sometimes spoiled youngest children.
Later borns tend to gravitate to occupations that are people or performance-oriented. Some have the need to contribute to humankind. Popular careers include actor, newspaper reporter, talk show host, comedian, psychologist, telephone solicitor, sales person, disc jockey, entertainer and teacher. Famous last borns include Celine Dion, Billy Crystal, Sarah Ferguson and Rosie O’Donnel.
— Only Child. Often classified with first borns, only children tend to be highly motivated, confident, achievement- orientated, but noncompetitive. Self-sufficient, they learn to entertain themselves early. Many attend college and achieve academic success. They may be creative, but can be self-centered. Like pampered last borns, they may rely on service from others rather than exert their own efforts. They may be overprotected and perfectionists.
Career choices of only children are similar to those of first borns. Famous only children include Robin Williams, Franklin Delano Roosevelt, Drew Barrymore, Courtney Love and Frank Sinatra.
Has birth order affected your personality and career success? Why or why not? What can you do to strengthen desired traits?
Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life, by Dr. Carole Kanchier, shows how to strengthen desired personal qualities and move forward in your life career: https://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963
Fall a season of transformations, may be the time to dare yourself to change, welcome new opportunities!
Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life, by Dr. Carole Kanchier, shows how to start the fall season with a positive mindset.
Questers with a positive mindset are open to experiencing new things in all areas of life. They believe we are continuously growing. They seek opportunities tor improve their personal and professional lives. Questers with a positive mindset tend to possess the following traits:
– Desire to seek new challenges to grow
– Open to criticism and negative feedback to grow
– View failure or setbacks as opportunities to lean
– Persevere to overcome setbacks
– Find inspiration in others accomplishments
Questers with a positive mindset have the ability to see opportunity in the face of hardships. They tend to reach higher levels of success than those with a fixed mindset, because they have the motivation to learn and put in the extra effort required to succeed.
Questers don’t accept the idea that intelligence is a static. They believe that everyone has the ability to learn and develop high-level skills.
Take the Questers Quiz to determine whether you have a positive mindset and other Questers traits: www.questersdaretochange.com.
People with rigid mindset think our abilities are predetermined from birth. They believe their mental capacity is static and cannot be changed or expanded upon.
Characteristics of those with fixed mindset include:
– Inability to hear negative feedback or criticism
– Threatened by others’ successes.
– Give up easily when things don’t go as planned.
– Avoid challenges or tasks requiring extra effort
– Avoid failure to prove their intelligence
A rigid mindset holds people back from reaching their potential. They avoid experiences that will allow them to grow personally and professionally. The inability to accept failure will prevent them from pursuing information or tasks that don’t come naturally.
There are times when we all find ourselves themselves trapped in a rigid mindset approach to life. However, it’s important to understand that a static view of the world hinders us from achieving our endless potential. When we look at the world with an open mind, the universe is the limit for attaining desired goals!
– Believe in yourself. William James, the father of American psychology, said: “Your belief at the beginning of a doubtful undertaking is the one thing that ensures the successful outcome of your venture…” When you expect the best, you release a magnetic force in your mind, which by the law of attraction, tends to bring the best to you.
– Recognize you create your own thoughts and have power to change them. Think and talk about the kind work you want. Use positive statements about such things as enjoying your colleagues, having a supportive boss, and being in control.
– Concentrate on successes. Prepare a list of personality and work-related accomplishments, or create a collage using pictures that illustrate you succeeding in your ideal work setting. View this daily.
Review work accomplishments. Note the role belief and hard work played in achieving successes, and strategies used to accomplish results.
– Be genuine. Discard preconceived notions of what others think, and recreate the person you are, and want to be! Don’t compare yourself with others. Judge your job accomplishments against personal standards of self-improvements as well as company standards. Strive for excellence rather than perfection. Ask your supervisor for feedback and support.
– Break the worry habit. Empty your mind of worrisome thoughts about your job before sleeping to avoid retention of these thoughts in your subconscious. Picture the troublesome thoughts flowing out of your mind like water flowing from a basin.
– Forgive. Forgiveness is pardoning without harboring resentment. Release an old hurt about a colleague who started a malicious rumor about you. You don’t have to befriend the individual, but you must release negative emotions associated with that person. When you hold onto pain, you’re allowing that person’s actions to continue to hurt you.
– Define a clear career goal, and expect success. Be motivated by desire and goal attainment. When you arise in the morning, review this goal. Take one forward action step. Reward yourself for attaining this.
– Fall clean work space. Remove clutter. Add a plant or flowers for beauty and energy boost.
Remember, fall is about new beginnings and cultivating optimism. Use this time to create and pursue the job and lifestyle you want!
Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life, offers inspiration, insight, and practical strategies to create your desired career and life. https://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963
Are you always jamming your schedule, feel you can’t waste a second? Do you allow the clock to manage you? Or, do you feel comfortable trusting your intuition to guide your time?
To better manage time, we set priorities and schedule our days and months. But we often still feel pressured, lack total control.
The conventional approach to managing time was appropriate for the Industrial-Age, but is this effective in the Information Age?
Most of us think of time in the linear way that has dominated Western thought since Isaac Newton imagined time to be a forward movement of orderly, unchanging hours, months and years. We manage time by inserting appropriate tasks into the right slots. And when our schedules don’t follow such orderly paths, we think we’re undisciplined.
This linear concept of time is useful but incomplete. Another way of viewing time is to perceive it in a holistic fashion, and experience it through intuitive feelings. This requires that we transcend the parts to see the whole.
Albert Einstein pioneered a new view of time and the universe. Contemporary scientists such as David Deutsch, a quantum physicist, emphasizes that the structure of the universe is made in the image of its underlying field. The physical character of atoms, proteins and cells including people are controlled by immaterial energies that collectively form that field. This unique spectrum represents an invisible moving force that is in harmonic resonance with our physical bodies.
Time is infinite, inseparable from and interrelated with the universe. Because time is limitless and highly personal, we can go within to establish a comfortable range of rhythms and balance. We can manage time intuitively.
An ancient Chinese Taoist philosophy, described in The Tao of Time: A Revolutionary Philosophy and Guide for Personal Time Management, offers time management ideas that are consistent with current scientific views.
Taoism emphasizes the now. Living in the present helps eliminate clock-induced stress because we practice mindfulness, focus on present tasks.
Relaxation, patience and contemplation enable us to approach tasks openly at the appropriate time. When we wait for the right moment, actions tend to fall into place.
Taoism is concerned with being present in the moment. Once we have achieved being, doing and having will follow. We’re flexible, can respond to the moment. We can change plans with minimum discomfort, approach projects with new perspectives.
When we shift our thought patterns and fine tune our intuition, we can make quick decisions that we might have agonized over previously because we don’t have time to doubt.
Many of us prefer to act rather than contemplate. We surround ourselves with time-saving devices to make things happen on cue. We push to make things happen, creating resistance. In our hurry to achieve and acquire, we ignore our intuition and natural rhythms. Under pressure, we feel anxious, respond negatively.
Four interrelated Taoist principles form the underpinnings of this way of looking at time: nonresistance, individual power, balance and harmony.
– Nonresistance. Resisting the natural flow of events consumes energy. Therefore, instead of forcing events, we should trust in the moment and allow them to develop naturally. We’ll be more content and creative.
Many of us tend to create resistance. Our schedules are so tight that we panic, become angry at one more intrusion on our time. We worry that every interruption could further burden an already overloaded day. Our attitudes become defensive, unhappy and unproductive.
– Individual power. With individual power, we trust our intuition, and assert our right to control our time. We give ourselves permission to step back and look at the problem.
Trusting intuition enables us to remove extraneous details that cloud our vision and decisions. We enhance clarity, confidence and efficiency. A challenging situation now seems effortless. Often, in our haste to stay on schedule, we experience clarity after the fact.
– Balance. This idea suggests our inner selves and daily activities are synchronized. To be balanced, we need to find our “centres,” and listen to and act upon inner cues. Rediscovering our natural rhythms eliminates the feelings that we’re constantly in a tug of war with schedules.
Most of us seek balance. We tend to schedule our days combining specific amounts of work, personal and civic-related time. But instead of tuning into our inner needs, we usually proceed on automatic pilot.
– Harmony. This concept suggests we’re synchronized with our environments. We’re not separate from time and the universe, but rather an intrinsic part of these, an element of the grand scheme of the universe.
In summary, nonresistance teaches us to let go of our prepackaged approach to time management and allows events to unfold. Individual power enables us to assert our right to control our time. Listening to and trusting our intuition help us live in the moment and balance daily activities. Centered, we no longer feel guilty about past actions or fear future choices.
As we become comfortable with the foregoing concepts and rediscover our natural rhythms, clocks and schedules won’t control us. We can use them as tools rather than absolutes.
Can you find a balance between the holistic and linear ways of perceiving time? How can you integrate these concepts into your management of time?
Learn more in my book, Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life https://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963
Most successful people have learned to risk. The good feelings that result from taking a risk can be incredible. You see yourself as a survivor. You force yourself to grow by calling on abilities you haven’t used. Achieving your goal will enhance your sense of accomplishment, self-confidence and knowledge.
Are You a Risk Taker?
Answer “yes” or “no.”
1. I often wish people would be more definite.
2. When I want something, I’ll go out on a limb for it.
3. If the possible reward is very high, I would put money into a business that could fail.
4. I like to plan my activities.
5. I enjoy taking risks.
6. I prefer job challenge to job security.
7. I enjoy working on problems that have ambiguous answers.
8. I accept the possibility of failure.
9. It bothers me when something unexpected interrupts my routine.
10. I trust decisions I make spontaneously.
11. In games, I usually go for broke.
12. Once my mind is made up, that’s it.
13. I’m in favor of very strict enforcement of laws regardless of the consequences.
14. I try to avoid situations that have uncertain outcomes.
15. I would not borrow money for a business deal even if it might be profitable.
Scoring: 2 points for responding “yes” to each of the following statements: 2, 3, 5, 6, 7, 8, 10, and 11. A score of 10 or higher, suggests you enjoy taking risks. You are autonomous, like challenge, are confident, flexible and open to new experiences. However, if your score is 14 or more, your desire to risk may sometimes be extreme. A score of 4 to 8 suggests you may be open to some new experiences, but are overly organized or rigid in other areas. If you scored 3 or lower, you prefer a secure, well-ordered lifestyle.
If you want to develop your full potential, learn to take planned risks. Try some of the following:
— Make small changes first. This enables you to develop confidence and trust. You can then move on to more major decisions. Experiment with a different hair style or food. Change your routine. At work, offer new ways of tackling a job.
— Have a goal. A risk without a clear purpose can backfire. Focus on things you can change. Have positive expectations, do your homework, know the pros and cons, and listen to your intuition.
— Believe in yourself. Affirm yourself. Replace any negative thoughts or statements with positive ones. Avoid phrases such as, “I can’t,” “I will never. …”
— Turn failure or crises into growth opportunities. Consider “failure” a temporary setback. Depersonalize setbacks. Learn from these. Ask yourself what you would do differently and then make the necessary modifications.
— Look upon something new as an exciting opportunity to challenge yourself and to grow. If you don’t try, how will you ever find out if you can do it?
— Balance tentativeness with commitment. Set goals but don’t write these in stone. Be open to new experiences.
— Establish a support group. Confide in and ask for help from supportive family or friends. Associate with positive people.
— Describe barriers that are blocking you from making a desired change. For example, Personal Barriers include fear of loss of a secure income; fear of failure (such as starting a new job); fear of what others will think; fear of success; and guilt that change might create family hardships.
Societal Barriers include old notions of “career”; outdated retirement policies; traditional gender roles; and blocks imposed by educational institutions, unions and professional associations.
— Complete the Fantasy Risk Exercise: Think of an important risk you would like to take. What appeals to you about taking this risk? What would you gain? What is frightening about this risk? What will you lose? What’s the worst thing that could happen if it turned out badly? If the worst happened, what would you do?
Where could you get information to pursue this risk? From whom could you get support? What could you do to make this less risky? Less irreversible?
If you broke the risk into small steps, what would the first step be? How soon could you take it? Do this for each step. Evaluate the outcome of the risk. Did it turn out as expected? If not, why? What have you learned?
Celebrate your success whether or not it turned out as expected. Gradually, you will see yourself as a risk taker.
Creating a life worth living and finding the courage to risk pursuing you dreams isn’t easy, but you can do it! Questers, described in Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life, shows you how!
Where to start?
1. View yourself as an entrepreneur. Think of yourself as a product to be sold, rather than a job seeker. Your ability to get the job depends on how your accomplishments and skills can benefit potential employers, and how well you communicate these benefits.
2. Develop a positive mindset. Focus on what you can offer and rewards you’ll receive. Believe in yourself, your product. Expect good things. Practice positive self talk. Use phrases such as, “I can . . .” Develop a positive support system.
3. Prepare. Identify organizations with which you’d like to work before they advertise openings. Know their needs, goals. Design resumes and other marketing materials to show how you can address needs. Write a different resume for each target. Show how your experience, skills and accomplishments match job requirements, and how you’ll benefit the organization. Demonstrate how you can make or save money, help people feel good, or expand markets. Prepare a portfolio illustrating sample accomplishments.
Target decision-makers to determine job openings. Request introductions, cold call or email. To capture attention, offer creative comments about the organization, and devise innovative solutions to identified challenges.
4. Be genuine. When you’re excited about a job that reflects your passion, possibilities arise. Similarly, when you’re natural and honest, marketing is easy, successful.
5. Toot your own horn. Keep people informed about recent accomplishments. Use “I” statements to demonstrate achievements. Express feelings and opinions directly, honestly, assuredly. Maintain eye contact. Hold your head high, shoulders back.
6. Network continuously. Networking should be mutually beneficial. Offer contacts assistance and ask for help. Word of mouth is the best marketing strategy. Ask people, who have contacts in desired organizations, to help you secure meetings with decision makers. Thank contacts. Timely, consistent follow-up is essential. Call or meet contacts periodically. Record contact activities.
7. Make effective phone calls. Cold call to ascertain job openings. Prepare by role playing before calling. Give yourself pep talks. After a 10 second introduction, ask whether the decision maker has a few moments. If so, refer to a series of written talking points including questions to ask, facts to present, and answers to prospective questions. Request a meeting. Also follow-up employment interviews to determine where you stand in the hiring process.
Use voice mail. Call busy people before 8:30, after 5:30 and during the lunch break. Leave messages. If they’re not returned, call back. Don’t leave more than three messages over a ten-day period. Call again in a month. If you don’t get responses, send emails.
Consider using voice mail as an advertising medium. Compose “commercials” revealing interesting facts about what you can offer.
8. Be visible. Get involved in community events such as Chamber of Commerce activities and professional meetings. You’ll get most value from a group if you become a member, and go to the same group’s events rather than new groups all the time. Volunteer.
Enhance communication skills. Practice giving presentations, conducting meetings and listening nonjudgmentally. Join your local Toastmasters.
9. Know how to work a room. Arrive relatively early. When meeting people, give a 10 second self-introduction, and a firm handshake. Discuss common subjects such as industry gossip or interesting things people have done. Move around. Before leaving, indicate your desire to meet again.
10. Look and act professional. Appear savvy, contemporary. Dress with authority. Tailored dark suits with crisp shirts are appropriate for both genders. Coordinate pieces. Wear flattering colors and styles, well-maintained shoes. Have hair styled professionally. Avoid strong fragrances. Radiate energy, enthusiasm, friendliness, confidence and competence.
11. Be patient. Know the difference between what’s really happening and what you think is happening. When decision makers don’t call at assigned times, it’s probably because they don’t have time. If people say they haven’t had an opportunity to look at your resume, they probably mean more pressing projects have come up rather than they’re not interested. Ask when to call back. Keep in touch. Persist.
12. Follow the examples of the Questers described in Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life.