Effective #JobSearch

June 27, 2020

© Carole Kanchier, PhD

Effective Job Hunting Strategies

Mike has emailed 500 resumes over the past few months, but still has no responses.

Is your search coming up empty? Are you knowledgeable about appropriate job-hunting strategies? Answer True or False.

1. Responding to want ads is a waste of time.

2. Effective job hunters devote many hours to research.

3. You need to sell yourself to get the right job.

4. Executive Recruiter is another name for employment agency.

5. Networking is the best single method of getting a job.

6. Job hunters get about ten interviews for every 100 resumes mailed.


1. False.  You can improve your chances with creativity and effort.

Browse through all want ads in newspapers and the Internet. Answer ads that appeal to you, if you have most qualifications listed.

In addition to looking at your professional section, peruse other headings. Accounting positions could be listed under accounting as well as construction, education or other.

Identify key words used in the ads. If appropriate, use these key words to describe your skills and accomplishments in your resume.  Include concrete examples.

Call within two weeks to ensure your letter was received and reviewed. Ask how interview candidates will be chosen. State what you can offer. Request an interview.

2. True. Research is often the most neglected part of job search. Effective research can help you identify job possibilities and investigate prospective companies. Research will help you focus and shorten your search.

To identify potential positions, peruse “The Wall Street Journal,” “Business Week” and other business publications. Check Internet sites such as www.careercrossroads.com. Ask members of your contact network. Attend career fairs, trade shows and professional conferences.

Also look for hidden job leads. A newspaper article or television story describing a new product may suggest positions with a new company or expansion of a larger one.

To get information about prospective employers, check directories such as “Rich’s Guide,” “Million Dollar Directory,”  “Moody’s Complete Corporate Index,” Internet sites and personal contacts.

3. True. Think of yourself as a product to be marketed. Polish your total presentation. Dress professionally. Radiate optimism. Be positive and direct in your written and oral communication. Appear comfortable with your accomplishments and confident about your future.

Develop a portfolio to document your accomplishments. Share these with company interviewers. Include letters of recommendation from customers, commendations from superiors, company awards, and projects and professional seminars completed.

4. False. Search firms, often called executive recruiters or “headhunters,” represent employers, not job seekers. Recruiters often specialize in certain kinds of jobs, such as engineering or senior management.

If you’re conducting a national search for a senior level position, with a company employing more than 500 people, register with headhunters. But since your chances of getting a position this way are slim, use other search strategies.

Don’t deal with firms that want a fee. For information about recruiters, consult the Directory of Executive Recruiters or the Yellow Pages.

5. True. Networking is the best way to get a job. It enables you to increase your contacts and gives useful information, such as what unadvertised positions are available and what companies are hiring. Eighty to eighty-five percent of all employment comes from this method.

List everybody you know who might help you find employment. Keep abreast of new developments in your field and add to your contact list by joining professional, trade, alumni or civic groups. Create ways to meet people who are in hiring positions. Ask for introductions. Make cold calls.

6. False. Two to five for every 100 is more likely. Although direct mail (newspaper or electronic) is not productive  for most, you can make it work for you.

Identify and contact the hiring managers in companies of interest. You may uncover opportunities that won’t be advertised. Show, in your letter and resume, that you have the qualifications for a particular job. List your accomplishments that best relate to the targeted position, and request an interview. Follow up with a phone call.

Don’t be discouraged by rejections. They’re normal. Persevere. If you miss one opportunity, believe you’ll get a better one. Maintain confidence. Have faith.

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Author Bio: Carole Kanchier, PhD, is an internationally recognized newspaper/digital columnist, registered psychologist,  speaker,coach and author of award winning, Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life.  Kanchier has taught at University of California, Berkeley and Santa Cruz, University of Alberta, and other institutions of higher learning. Dr. Kanchier is known for her pioneering, interdisciplinary approach to human potential.

Carole is available for consultations and presentations.

Contact: carole@daretochange.com; carole@questersdaretochange.com; www.questersdaretochange.com

#Flow with #Change

June 25, 2020

© Carole Kanchier, PhD

Questers Dare to Change Shows How


Is the current pandemic influencing your personal and professional life? Do you fear losing your job, status, security?  Are you afraid of a poor boss, higher workload? Do you manage change well?

Questers who adapt to change:

  • Are self-reliant, resilient, flexible
  • Like learning, challenge
  • Value growth over security
  • Adapt quickly to new situations
  • Like trying new things
  • Handle stress well.

People who are less adaptable:

  • Like stability, structure, predictability
  • Are cautious, dislike fast-paced environments
  • Dislike variety
  • Are bothered when something interrupts routine
  • Are frustrated with time pressures
  • Do things the same way.

You can strengthen Quester traits to manage change

1. Accept and come to terms with change. Understand the five emotional stages of the change process: shock, denial and disbelief; fear and anxiety; resistance, anger and blame; acceptance and exploration; and commitment to action.

Express feelings. Discuss your concerns, fears and plans with a trusted friend. Dispel anger. Write down negative thoughts and feelingsindicating why you feel this way. Note your explanations. When they’re pessimistic, dispute them. Use evidence, alternatives, implications and usefulness as guides.

Identify and overcome obstacles. Clarify what you fear losing. Barriers could include fear of failing in a new job or guilt that change might create family hardships. Describe ways to minimize these.  

2. Empower yourself. Although you can’t control outcomes of external events, you can control your attitudes and beliefs. View change as a growth opportunity.

Change perceptions. A major stressor is how you see threats to your well-being, and the perception you can’t cope, don’t have options. Since your perceptual bias is learned, it can be unlearned. Believe you’ll succeed

Identify opportunities created by change. Focus on improvements resulting from change. Find ways to contribute to the team/department.

– Take responsibility for learning.  Make the job a learning laboratory. Challenge yourself.Learn and experiment with something new, rather than previously mastered tasks. Acquire knowledge/skills in your field, but also expose yourself to information outside your specialty. Surround yourself with diverse stimuli.  Every day, do something to improve yourself.

– Maintain optimism. Reinforce the positive in yourself and others. Associate with positive people. Expect good things. Watch your self-talk. Replace negative statements with positive ones. Emotionally believe you can control situations. Keep a diary of each day’s good experiences.

– Care for your mind, body, emotions and spirit. Schedule quiet times to think, reassess. Practice stress relievers such as deep breathing, exercise, meditation. Eat healthy, get sufficient sleep.

Choose productive attitudes and behaviors. Identify people, places, activities and conditions that both revitalize and drain you.  Each month, pursue one revitalizing activity and eliminate one depleting activity.

– Build confidence. Acknowledge your accomplishments. Post a list of achievements and positive personality characteristics where you can read it daily. Don’t change for others, or compare yourself with others. Don’t dwell on past mistakes. State affirmations daily.

 Enhance creativity. Relax.Brainstorm ways to manage specific changes. Change routines; for example, write with your non-dominant hand.   Keep your sense of humor. Create a journal of cartoons depicting workplace humor.  Look for humor in negative experiences.  Play.

Perceive patterns, and make connections between seemingly unrelated ideas, objects or events. View commonplace things in new ways.  Take advantage of unexpected opportunities.  

–  Develop the will to risk.  Instead of worrying about failure, think about missed opportunities if you don’t try. Don’t fear mistakes. Ask: “What’s the worst that could happen?” Reduce negative outcomes.

Live in the present. Let go of attachments. The more attached you are to something, the greater the fear of losing it.

3. Manage your own career. Clarify your goal and commit to achieving it. Base it on your mission, needs and talents. When possible, create new opportunities. Today’s organizations need your creativity to maintain a competitive edge. Convey what you can contribute to superiors to demonstrate a win/win situation.

Explore ways to creatively redesign your job.Participate in cross-functional teams to get exposure to new functional areas and enrich your position. Recognize other company positions. Consider downward, lateral, regional moves. Anticipate changes. Read newsletters. Network.  

Prepare for, and welcome the unexpected. You can choose to change your attitudes and situation, or you can complain. Use your power!

Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life, by Dr. Carole Kanchier, provides additional tips for flowing with change.

 https://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/15r-Life/dp/08408963   Chapter 1, Questers Dare to Change, is available from Dr. Kanchier’s web site: www.questersdaretochange.com 

Check audio edition: https://www.audible.com/pd/Questers-Dare-to-Change-Your-Job-and-Life-Audiobook/B07VZNKGJF?asin=B07VZNKGJF&ipRedirectOverride=true&overrideBaseCountry=true&pf_rd_p=34883c04-32e5-4474-a65d-0ba68f4635d3&pf_rd_r=TN801GRP49AWQSSYMDYC1 

Author Bio: Carole Kanchier, PhD, is an internationally recognized newspaper/digital columnist, registered psychologist, coach and author of award winning, Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life.  Kanchier has taught at University of California, Berkeley and Santa Cruz, University of Alberta, and other institutions of higher learning, and worked with clients representing many disciplines. Dr. Kanchier is known for her pioneering, interdisciplinary approach to human potential.

Contact Carole for consultations and speaking engagements — carole@dare to change.com

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Summer Job Search

June 24, 2020

© Carole Kanchier, PhD


Think summer is a slow time to find a new job? Think again!

Recruiters and hiring managers do not usually take summers off. Hiring managers are looking for top talent now. If they have any openings, they do not wait to hire. So, now is as good a time as any to look for your next position.

There’s less competition in the summer. Fewer people are job searching so you and your resume have a better chance of being seen and considered!

Hiring managers are often less busy in the summer. They have more time and attention they to give to filling open positions—meaning your application stands a better chance of being reviewed somewhat promptly rather than being pushed to the back burner.

Summer is also an ideal time to train new staff members so they’ll ready for action after the Labor Day weekend. Organizations often find summer moves easier, especially when new employees are moving with the whole family since kids don’t have to switch schools in the middle of the year. Plus, the pace of work is generally a bit more relaxed.

Because many industries slow down in summer, candidates may have an easier time requesting time off to participate in interviews. You may be able to cut out in the middle of a weekday afternoon—without setting off any alarms, or weaving a web of untruths such as doctor’s appointments.

Networking contacts may also have more time to meet for informal interviews or informal coffee chats. Old colleague or new acquaintances may welcome opportunities to meet. Thus you’ll have an easier time forging some relationships and expanding your professional network.

This season may be a good time to review successful job search tips.

Effective Job Search Strategies

– Show you’re knowledgeable about the company and its needs. Research the organization and job. Call contacts to get an insider’s perspective. Be conversant with the company’s product and services, and recent developments in the industry. Know how to describe contributions you can make. Identify and contact hiring managers.

 – Prepare several resumes. Target each resume to a specific job. Demonstrate how your experience, skills and accomplishments fit the job and company.

If you’re an entry-level candidate, a page should be plenty. If you are a mid-level candidate (with about 5 -10 years of related experience), you might write a two-page resume which allows space to include all relevant information and work history. Executives or senior-level managers with long list of accomplishments and experiences may create longer resumes.

Write your resume in Microsoft Word. Cut and paste the resume into the body of an email instead of an attachment. Employ key words listed in ads to define your skills, accomplishments and other strengths. Include numbers, dollars and evidence of quality. Avoid fancy treatments such as italics, underlining and graphics. Create a separate resume to take to the interview.

– Write a short, courteous cover letter. In three or four paragraphs, identify your job objective, highlight related accomplishments, and indicate how you can benefit the employer. Consider including a portfolio with sample accomplishments, publications or other achievements.

– Prepare for interviews. Practice delivery.Know the names and titles of all interviewers. Answer questions promptly, offering concrete examples. Show how your skills and accomplishments can do the job. Use success stories to illustrate accomplishments. Emphasize results. Give data indicating positive achievements, such as increased sales by fifteen percent over the past year.

Prepare to answer key interview questions: “Tell me about yourself?” ‘What are your long-range goals?'” “Why should we hire you?” “What are your major strengths and weaknesses?” “What salary do you expect?” “How does your previous experience relate to this job?” ‘Why do you want this job? “Why did you leave your last job?”

Turn limitations into strengths. If you don’t have a ready response, ask for time to think about it. Don’t respond with one-or two-word answers, interrupt or talk too much. Never discuss salary until you’re offered the job. If pressed, give a salary range, based on average yearly income in the job field.

– Present a professional demeanor. Wear the team uniform. This shows you belong in the environment. Research the norm for the geographic locale, industry and company.  Coordinate pieces. Clothes should be spotless, well-tailored. Hair should be professionally styled, nails well-kept. Avoid strong fragrances.

Radiate enthusiasm, confidence and competence. Be positive, genuine.  A sincere smile displays good will, friendliness. Show interest in the person or project. Keep hands out-of-pockets. Maintain eye contact with everyone and develop a firm handshake.

– Leave a favorable impression. If employers like you, they may create a job for you even though you don’t fit the skill set of an advertised position. Close the interview emphasizing key skills and why you should be hired. Never refuse an offer on the spot. Send thank-you notes to interviewers within 24 hours after interviews.

Keep track of the days between interviews and correspondence, and follow-up with polite reminders when appropriate.

Don’t take rejection personally. If one job doesn’t materialize, believe you’ll get a better one. Be patient. Maintain optimism, persist.

Additional job search strategies are reviewed in the award-winning, Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life, by Dr. Carole Kanchier: https://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963 

Check audible Questers: https://www.audible.com/pd/Questers-Dare-to-Change-Your-Job-and-Life-Audiobook/B07VZNKGJF?asin=B07VZNKGJF&ipRedirectOverride=true&overrideBaseCountry=true&pf_rd_p=34883c04-32e5-4474-a65d-0ba68f4635d3&pf_rd_r=TN801GRP49AWQSSYMDYC1

Author Bio: Carole Kanchier, PhD, is an internationally recognized newspaper/digital columnist, registered psychologist, coach and author of Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life.  Carole Kanchier has taught at University of California, Berkeley and Santa Cruz, University of Alberta, and other institutions of higher learning. Dr. Kanchier is known for her pioneering, interdisciplinary approach to human potential.

Contact Carole – carole@questersdaretochange.com. Dr Kanchier is available for consultations and interviews. Her team will be delighted to send a complementary PDF of Questers Dare to Change

Questers Dare to Change shows how to reevaluate personal and professional goals and plan for success.


© Carole Kanchier, PhD


Good Business Etiquette Can Advance Career

Good manners are good business. Many potentially profitable alliances or promotional opportunities are lost because of unintentional breaches of manners. Second chances aren’t always possible.

Test Your Business Etiquette

Which of the following demonstrate appropriate and inappropriate business etiquette?

1. Your boss, Ms. Andrews, enters the room when you’re meeting with a client, Mr. Block. You rise and say, “Ms. Andrews, I’d like you to meet Mr. Block, our Chicago client.”

2. You answer the phone for a peer who’s available, and ask “Who’s calling please?”

3. In a restaurant, you drink thin soup served in a cup with no handles.  

4. The male pays when he’s having a business meeting at a restaurant with a female colleague.

5. When you greet a visitor in your office, let him sit where he wishes.

6. You leave a luncheon meeting after two hours.

7. You’re scheduled to meet an associate for a working lunch. If your associate hasn’t arrived after 30 minutes, you order and eat.

8. Name tags should be placed on the right shoulder.

9. It’s acceptable to make sales pitches at networking functions.

10. It’s proper to give business cards to everyone at business meetings.

11.It’s acceptable to discuss food preferences at employer receptions.

12. It’s appropriate to take phone calls while in meetings.

13. It’s important to hold doors open for women.

14. It’s okay not to attend office parties.

15. It’s correct for women to extend their hands when greeting others.


1. Inappropriate. Introduce or name the more important person first.In business, clients hold the highest authority.

The person of lesser importance, regardless of gender, is introduced to the person of greater importance. “Mr. or Ms. Greater Authority (Mr. Block), I’d like to introduce Mr. or Ms. Lesser Authority (Ms. Andrews).”

2. Inappropriate.Asking “Who’s calling?” suggests calls are screened. To avoid insults, have the person answering the phone announce you’re unavailable, then ask for the caller’s name and message.

To avoid screening, announce yourself at the beginning of calls. By stating your name, you’re sending a subliminal message that you have a right to speak to the person.

3. Inappropriate. Use the spoon provided.

4. Inappropriate. The person who benefits from the business association pays, regardless of gender. Clarify you’re hostingwhen extending invitations.

5. Inappropriate. Indicating where your guest should sit will make him feel more comfortable.

6. Appropriate. Allow two hours for business lunches. Start discussing business after the appetizer has been served.

7. Appropriate. Also, expect an apology.

8.Appropriate. When shaking hands, your eyes follow the line of the arm to the person’s right side. By placing the tag on the right, you can read the name while shaking hands.

9. Inappropriate. You’ll be perceived as pushy, needy, insensitive or inexperienced.

10. Inappropriate. Wait till you’ve established a reason to make further contact before exchanging cards. This enhances the value of the exchange.

11.Inappropriate. Downplay preferences. Some may wonder how well you fit in the company if you fuss over small things.

12. Inappropriate. Taking calls while in a meeting is rude. It says others are more important than the person with whom you’re meeting. If you’re expecting a call, tell the person with whom you’re meeting in advance.

13. Inappropriate. Business etiquette is based on hierarchy and power, unlike social etiquette which is based on gender and chivalry. Nobody should be given special treatment because of gender.

Doors are held open for persons more senior in rank, regardless of gender. Whoever gets to the door first holds it open for people following.

14. Inappropriate. It’s a “must-attend” event. Not attending shows disrespect.

15. Appropriate. A firm handshake made with direct eye contact sets the stage for a positive encounter.

Follow such basic courtesies as returning messages promptly,leaving concise voice mail messages,sending hand written thank you notes, and greeting people when entering an office.

Present yourself with confidence and authority. Consider others’ feelings. Be courteous, respectful and considerate to everyone. Business etiquette can advance your career.

Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life gives additional business etiquette tips: https://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963

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Based on ongoing research, Questers helps people understand change, and empower themselves to manage uncertainty.

I would be delighted to send a pdf version for review, and be available for a consultation or interview.

 Author Bio: Carole Kanchier, PhD, is an internationally recognized newspaper/digital columnist, registered psychologist, coach and author of award winning, Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life.  Kanchier has taught at University of California, Berkeley and Santa Cruz, University of Alberta, and other institutions of higher learning, and worked with clients representing many disciplines. Dr. Kanchier is known for her pioneering, interdisciplinary approach to human potential. 

Contact: carole@daretochange.com; carole@questersdaretochange.com; www.questersdaretochange.com


The Truth

June 21, 2020

When in doubt, tell the truth”  Mark Twain

© Carole Kanchier, PhD

Have you ever lied at work? Do you tell half-truths to get the sale or job? Do you keep your promises?

What does this quiz say about you?

Answer yes or no.

1. I’ve lied on my resume or fudged reports.

2. I call in sick when I’m not.

3. I use the Internet on company time.

4. I fail to disclose pertinent information.

5. I’ve cheated on school or employment tests.

6. I’d tell a face-saving lie if the truth will damage my career.

7. I exaggerate the truth or tell white lies to avoid hurting someone.

8. I lie about family emergencies.

9. I’ve stolen office supplies.

10. I’ve padded expense accounts.

11. I lie to serve my employer.

12. I’ve copied software or reproduced cassettes.

Scoring: One point for each “yes.” The higher your score, the more you could enhance honesty.

Lying is stressful, and stress harms health and accelerates aging. Frequent lying and fear of exposure keeps your body’s “fight or flight” response on. Long term activation of this system may result in health conditions like heart disease.

The Pinocchio Effect also kicks in when you lie. The temperature in the muscles around the nose becomes hotter, according to Emilio Milán and Elvira López at the University of Granada. There is corresponding action in the insular cortex of the brain which controls emotions. Fear of being caught in a lie increases activity in the insular cortex, leading to more heat emanating from the nose. The researchers called this the Pinocchio effect. In Walt Disney’s Pinocchio, the boy puppet’s lies are revealed whenever his wooden nose grows.

Lying damages a person’s self respect and credibility. Dishonesty also affects company productivity. Using company time and stealing small items add up. Honest employees pay for others’ lack of integrity through stricter rules, or other..

Why people lie

Children learn to lie. Many don’t view cheating on exams as unethical. Dishonest behavior is encouraged when schools fail to show disapproval of students’ cheating. The same message is given when parents cheat on taxes. Children learn all methods for achieving goals are justified.

We fib because we need to appear competent, want to avoid hurt or conflict, desire to protect our jobs, or not rock the boat. Some workers may lie about a sick child to protect themselves from taking another business trip. Others who call in sick are tending to personal needs. Not all supervisors understand employees’ need for family or relaxation time. Business behaviors such as not disclosing pertinent information or selling defective goods are rationalized along the same lines.

Political and business leaders have lied for centuries. Recent studies conducted by Paul Piff, social psychologist, at the University of California, Irvine, found that self-interests tend to spur the elite to lie and cheat.

Lies have hidden costs, not only in productivity and teamwork, but in a person’s self-respect. It’s difficult to stop, once you start exaggerating the truth. People who lie don’t remember who knows what. A major consequence is damaged credibility.

Some workplace situationsfacilitate untruthfulnss. Employee dishonesty may be a sign of outdated company policies. Workers may take time off for questionable family needs because the employer has no flex time or personal care days.

Demonstrating Truthfulness

William Shakespeare offers sage advice: “Honesty is the best policy. If I lose mine honor, I lose myself.”

– Love and accept yourself. Know what you want. Surround yourself with supportive people who accept you for who you really are. Don’t compromise your integrity and reputation by associating with people whose standards of integrity you mistrust.

– Speak the truth. Communicate in an open and honest fashion. Exaggerating your ability to meet expectations will hurt your status and business more than being honest up front. Truth and trust go together. Lies erode others’ faith in you.

– Say what you mean and mean what you say. Present both sides of an issue to ensure objectivity. Simplify your statements so that others understand your message. Tell people the rational behind your decisions so that your intent is understood.

– Keep promises. If there is a genuine reason you can’t reveal your position, such as when you’re negotiating, consider saying, “I can’t discuss that now.”

Hold people accountable when their actions don’t match their words.. If you have a personal bias or a conflict of interest make it known to people with whom you are interacting.

– Avoid compromising situations. If your boss tells you to lie about a given situation, gently decline saying you’re not comfortable with the idea, or offer an alternative way to achieve the goal.  If you find yourself in many compromising situations, think about moving on.

– Shift mindset. Lying is a learned survival strategy that can be unlearned. Note what triggers your decision to lie. What fear (e.g., being wrong, hurting someone) is behind this choice? Why do you believe the lie will have a better outcome, and for whom? Reflect on your answers to uncover your motivation, and make needed modifications.

When you sense yourself crafting a lie, ask yourself. “What’s the worst that can happen if I tell the truth?”

Visualize your ideal picture of yourself. Focus on this image ofyour honest self to maintain truthful behavior in all situations.

Additional tips for being truthful are in award-winning, Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life, by Dr. Carole Kanchier: https://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963 

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Please review sample book chapters: http://www.questersdaretochange.com/book/excerpts, and Carole’s blogs: http://www.questersdaretochange.com/blog

Based on ongoing research, Questers helps people understand change, and empower themselves to manage uncertainty.

I would be delighted to send a pdf version for review, and be available for consultations and speaking engagements. Sample interview questions which could be the basis for an article or presentation are attached.

Dr. Carole Kanchier, registered psychologist, career and personal growth expert, is author of award winning, Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life.  Carole Kanchier inspires people to realize their potential and look at career growth in new ways succeed. Dr. Kanchier pioneered the unique model of lifelong growth and decision making which she shares in award winning, Questers Dare to Change.  www.questersdaretochange.com. Dr. Kanchier’s forthcoming book, Arouse the Force Within You, will be available next.


© Carole Kanchier, PhD

What is a Solstice?

Our Earth rotates on its axis once each day, producing the cycle of day and night.

At the same time, the Earth moves around the Sun on its orbit over the course of a year. However, the axis of rotation of the Earth is not lined up with the axis of motion around the Sun. Instead, it is tilted slightly at 23.44°. This is sometimes referred to as the ‘ecliptic’. 

This tilt means that during one half of the year the North side of the Earth is tilted slightly towards the Sun and the South is tilted away. For the other half of the year the reverse is true.

At the exact moment that the northern hemisphere is most tilted towards the Sun, the northern hemisphere experiences its summer solstice while the southern hemisphere has its winter solstice. About six months later, the northern hemisphere has its winter solstice while the southern hemisphere is at its summer solstice.

These key points in the year, along with the equinoxes, help to determine the seasons on Earth.

The world ‘solstice’ comes from the Latin solstitium meaning ‘Sun stands still’, because the apparent movement of the Sun’s path north or south stops before changing direction.

Celebrating the Solstice

Since humans began using the Sun as a timekeeper, particularly when it came to the cycle in farming, the summer solstice has been marked with varying degrees of importance.

Perhaps most famously, the ancient monument Stonehenge has for some time been the center of a ritual celebration. This comes from the fact the stones are lined up to frame the rising of the Sun on the solstice, perhaps suggesting a connection to the day and as a celebration of Sun. However it isn’t clear if marking summer solstice was indeed its purpose. The stones also mark the position of sunset on the winter solstice, and so may instead indicate a place to request the return of the summer months.

In any case, many modern day religious groups gather at the site to mark the occasion: it is also one of the rare times visitors are allowed to walk right up to the stones.

Elsewhere around the world, celebrations range from the biannual appearance of the feathered serpent shadow on the pyramid at Chichén Itzá in Mexico to a range of floral-themed events in countries like Sweden and Latvia.

In the southern hemisphere, where the summer solstice occurs in December, the day is instead strongly associated with Christmas, having once been the day of its celebration until various calendar changes shifted the dates apart.

Celebrating the Summer Solstice in the Northern Hemisphere

Celebrating the beginning of summer can be simple and fun. Here are some ways to enjoy this solstice.

– Meditate. The summer solstice is a great time to reflect on the past season and set goals for the season ahead. Take a few moments for yourself to relax and meditate. Take time for silence,  communicate with nature.  Learn to just “be.”

– Go for a swim. The summer solstice is a good time hang out by the pool, teach children to swim, walk near a lake or river, or exercise in the park or your backyard.

Play outdoor games with family or friends. Set up a sprinkler and play a fun game of tag; or set up an obstacle course by repurposing items you have around your house like toy animals, hula hoops or bicycle tires.

– Have a bonfire. (Ensure you put it out before retiring.) Play music, sit around the fire, and enjoy snacks such as nachos, toasted marshmallows, or pineapple chunks, pick wild flowers and enjoy these at home in a vase.

Start a garden. Prepare your soil to receive plants by tilling and mixing in compost or fertilizer. Select plants from your local garden shop, or ask your friends or neighbors for cuttings from their gardens. Then dig holes large enough for each plant, and be sure to leave enough space for the plants to grow. Gently place the plants in the holes and fill in the space with dirt or fertilizer. Water the newly planted flowers or vegetables gently, and enjoy your garden.

– Share additional summer activities with friends, co-workers, and neighbors.

Carole Kanchier, PhD

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Author Bio: Carole Kanchier, PhD, is an internationally recognized newspaper/digital columnist, registered psychologist, speaker, coach and author of Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life.  Kanchier has taught at University of California, Berkeley and Santa Cruz, University of Alberta, and other institutions of higher learning. Dr. Kanchier is known for her pioneering, interdisciplinary approach to human potential.

Based on ongoing research, award winning, Questers Dare to Change, shows how to create your desired life and navigate lifelong career decision making https://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963

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You #Are What You #Think

June 18, 2020

© Carole Kanchier, PhD

Can we create our own reality? Can thoughts, meditation, visualization, faith and intentions help us achieve desired career goals?

Research suggests that our mind can influence our physical reality. When the body is in peak condition and the trained mind is completely focused, an individual can achieve the miraculous.

Athletes, who do mental training along with actual practice, show greater improvement than those who only do physical training. Tiger Woods mentally pictures his golf ball rolling into the hole. World class figure skaters mentally rehearse their routines.

Moreover, ordinary people have learned to shrink or eliminate tumors and undergo surgery without medication using similar techniques.

Some use mind power to achieve desired career goals. Barbara, a former Silicon Valley technical writer, imagined herself tending her herb garden and teaching in Hawaii. She’s currently living her dream.

You too can train your mind to achieve desired life career goals.

You are the director of your life. You create your own life script by your mental attitude, the thoughts you think.  Mind has unlimited potential, but like other muscles, it has to be built up.

You need to practice mind building skills such as relaxing, breathing, meditating and visualizing desired outcomes. You must also have faith that you’ll achieve your goal and work hard.

Your subconscious mind holds the key to your potential. It takes orders from your conscious mind. To strengthen mind power, learn through relaxation and meditation exercises to slow your wave frequencies at the alpha or subconscious level to seven to 14 cycles per second (the conscious mind functions at 15 or higher cycles per second). Then practice techniques such as visualizing outcomes and stating affirmations to help you achieve desired goals.

Seven goal attainment strategies

1. Write your goal and deadline. Have a clear, precise picture of your desired outcome. Ensure your goal is consistent with your purpose. Write a paragraph indicating why you want this goal. Include all the benefits to yourself and others. INTEND to achieve your goal.

2. Practice imagery daily. Imagine yourself living your goal today. Do this in a relaxed state, when your mind is at the alpha level. Visualize your goal clearly; include details. Don’t limit yourself by thinking about money, responsibilities or other externals. Hold your desired outcome firmly in your mind.

Experience achieving your goal. Notice how it feels, smells, sounds and looks. If you find this difficult, make a collage or take a photograph depicting your goal.

3. Identify barriers that may hinder you from reaching your goal. Write down how you can overcome these obstacles. Include all the people, groups, resources, personal strengths, and tools that can help you overcome obstacles.

4. Develop an action plan. Every day do at least one activity that will lead you to your goal. Use a daily organizer to plan activities.

Focus on your goal. Concentration is like a lazer beam that cuts through obstacles. Work hard. All your activities should lead to your goal. Ask yourself, “Is what I am doing  moving me closer to my goal?” Turn down promotions if they’re not compatible with your goal.

Consider failure a learning experience as you move toward your goal.

5. Have faith you’ll attain your goal. Faith consist of desire, belief and expectancy. Desire is the initial motivation, the force that pushes you towards your goals. Belief is what sustains you between desire and expectancy. Expect to achieve your goal.

Avoid negativity. Think and talk about things you want, not those you don’t want. Eliminate negative thoughts and feelings such as such stress, worry, hate or anger.  Replace negative thoughts with positive statements or pictures.  Avoid phrases such as, “I can’t.”

If there is the slightest hesitancy in your mind, you’ll not achieve your outcome. You’ll also fail if you try too hard because this suggests you have doubts.

6. Develop a support group. Meet often to review your progress and to get encouragement and suggestions. Avoid negative people

7. Keep your mind, body and spirit in top working order.  If you use you’re mind you’ll get what you want. Make sure you know what you want.

Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Your Life by Carole Kanchier provides additional tips to clarify and attain desired goals. https://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963

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Based on ongoing research, Questers helps people understand change, and empower themselves to manage uncertainty.

Author Bio: Carole Kanchier, PhD, is an internationally recognized newspaper/digital columnist, educator, speaker, registered psychologist/coach, and author of award-winning, Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life and forthcoming Arouse the Force Within You!  Dr. Kanchier has taught at University of California, Berkeley and Santa Cruz and University of Alberta, and other institutions of higher learning. Carole Kanchier is known for her pioneering, interdisciplinary approach to human potential. Contact Carole: carole@questersdaretochange.com; www.questersdaretochange.com
How Satisfied are You With Life?

© Carole Kanchier, PhD

Summer is the perfect time for vacations, sunbathing, outdoor sports, spending time with family and friends, and enjoying outdoor barbeques.

The summer season may also be a good time to evaluate the degree of satisfaction we have with our lives. Kirk, who has been in his current job for four years, still loves his work. He also has good friends, and enjoyable leisure activities.

Job satisfaction is linked to our satisfaction in all segments of our lives: work, relationships, spiritual, personality, leisure, and financial.

Are you satisfied with your life?

Check statements that best describe you:

Usually happy

Anticipate a bright future

Rarely upset over trivial disappointments

Rarely bored?

Usually agree with partner on important issues/Communicate well partner about most things

Enjoy companionship with warm, respectful friends

Happily involved in work

Enjoy getting out of bed on work days

Can attain desired career goals by working with current employer

Participate in enjoyable leisure activities

Have enough time and money for leisure

Accept constructive criticism well

Proud of accomplishments

Have a sense of inner peace

Derive meaning and purpose in life

Feel healthy, energetic

Maintain good exercise, nutrition, relaxation and sleep habits

Earn sufficient income to meet needs

Have few financial concerns

Scoring: One point for each checked statement. The more statements you checked, the more satisfied you seem to be with life. You appear to be well-adjusted, confident, and satisfied with your job, relationships, and lifestyle. You may have a sense purpose and are healthy. If you checked seven or fewer statements you may be unhappy with the way things are going in your life.

Tips for enhancing lifestyle

– Work. Manage your own career. See yourself as someone who has inner strength and choices. Do some self and job analyses. Is your job satisfying your needs? If not, why? Can your needs be satisfied by staying in your job? List other personal qualities (purpose, interests, skills) you want expressed in your ideal job.

Explore options that are compatible with these. Investigate such options as redesigning your current job, taking another position in your company, changing organizations, or shifting occupational fields. Consider self-employment, a sabbatical, or continuing education.

– Relationships and Intimacy.  Develop warm, supportive relationships . Respect others and value their opinions. Develop a close, supportive and caring relationship with at least one other person. Enjoy his or her company without demands or expectations.

Enhance communication skills. Practice listening. Clarify by asking questions when you’re not clear about something. Reflect content by summarizing what you hear the other person say. Reflect feelings by letting her know you hear the emotional content of his or her words.

– Spiritual. Nourish your soul. Seek solitude and quiet times. Meditate, pray, enjoy nature, listen to music, or write in a journal. Listen to your intuition.

Clarify your purpose. Look for themes that emerge from the following: your strengths and accomplishments, contributions for which you want to be remembered, how you would spend time if you were a billionaire, activities that absorbed you as a child, and a recurring dream. Identify and pursue activities that are in harmony with your purpose.

– Personality: Strengthen confidence and optimism. Love and accept yourself. Acknowledge your accomplishments. Prepare a list of positive achievements and personality characteristics. Post this where you can read it daily. Depersonalize failure. View setbacks as learning experiences that will enable you achieve goals.

Don’t compare yourself to others, or care about what others think. Practice positive self-talk. Look for and expect good things to happen.

– Leisure: Make time for enjoyable activities. Relax. Don’t schedule every minute of your day. Listen to music, or read a book while commuting. Daydream. Play. Let your inner child emerge! Take weekends off.

– Financial. Minimize monetary concerns. Create and stick to a budget. Adopt a cash-only policy. Reduce living standards. Find new income sources such as part-time work, shared accommodation, or updating skills to increase income.

 – Balance. Live a harmonious life. Become involved in a variety of activities. If you create an identity in only one life component such as work, you’ll feel empty and helpless if you lose or are dissatisfied with your job. You’ll also fear risking. But if you’re involved in varied activities, your life will be more complete. You may even enjoy a job that was previously dissatisfying.

You have the power to change. To enrich your life, enhance at least one part of your life weekly!

Questers, described in award-winning, Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life, by Dr. Carole Kanchier, show how to create your desired lifestyle: https://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963. Get a copy today!

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Life is a challenge, meet it.
Life is an opportunity, take it
Life is an adventure, dare it!

 Author Bio: Carole Kanchier, PhD, is an internationally recognized newspaper/digital columnist, registered psychologist, coach and author of award winning, Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life.  Kanchier has taught at University of California, Berkeley and Santa Cruz, University of Alberta, and other institutions of higher learning, and worked with clients representing many disciplines. Dr. Kanchier is known for her pioneering, interdisciplinary approach to human potential.

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Ace #Telephone Skills

June 15, 2020

© Carole Kanchier, PhD – carole@questersdaretochange.com

Telephone Skills – Crucial for Career Success

Telephone Communication Skills Crucial for Career Success

The telephone is the most common business tool and its proper use is essential for career advancement. 

Talking with a potential client, customer or colleague on the phone can sometimes be challenging. Without seeing an individual’s face, messages can become muddled and meanings misinterpreted.

Are you telephone savvy?

When you make calls do you:

1. State your message briefly and clearly?

2. Leave your name, organization and phone number, repeating these twice, slowly and clearly?

3. Give the full name of the person for whom you’re leaving the message?

4. State the date and time of the call?

5. State whether you’ll call back or you’d like the other person to call?

7. Ask for a return call at a time you’ll be available?

When you receive calls, do you:

8. Identify yourself?

9. Use courtesies such as “Please hold while I complete another call.”

10. Offer to take messages when you’re answering for someone?

11. Repeat the caller’s name and number to make sure they’re correct?

12. Speak in a professional manner? 

13. Does your answering machine have a pleasant, professional and courteous message? Leave a good impression?

Scoring: One point for each yes. The higher your score, the more positive telephone skills you possess. A score of 9 or less suggests you could enhance your skills.

Review telephone basics

1. Knowledge: Before you make a call have the required information.

2. Goals: Know what you want to accomplish.

3. Attitude: Make the person feel you’re interested in him and the message.

– Make a great first impression. Show the caller you’re helpful, confident and competent. If a potential employer’s first contact is over the phone, she gets cues from your voice. What kind of impression are you giving?

Influence your listener’s reactions by controlling the pace, pitch, inflection and tone of your voice.  Strive for an energy level that matches your normal conversation. A soft voice suggests shyness or uncertainty; a loud voice implies anger or worry. Be alert to your caller’s needs. If he’s having trouble hearing, speak louder, more slowly.

Speak briskly but pronounce words clearly. When you talk too fast, you sound hurried or excited and are difficult to understand; when you too speak slowly, you sound tired, lazy or uninterested.

Inflection adds special meaning to your message. If, for example, you say, “John needs help with his resume this afternoon,” you’re suggesting John needs help. If you say, “John needs help with his resume — this afternoon, —  your indicating he needs help this afternoon.

Different tones of voice can make us feel differently — happy, angry, hurt, etc. Keep your tone attentive, interested and friendly. Smiling adds a pleasant tone to your voice.

– Be courteous, respectful. People are turned off by careless or rude remarks. Always say hello and identify yourself. Ask how you can help. Use courtesy words, “Thank you for waiting.”  If you need to put the caller on hold, ask, and wait for an answer. If you need to phone back, indicate when you’ll call.

End the call positively, for example, “Thanks for calling.”  Let the caller hang up first. This gives him control of the ending as well as an opportunity to ask further questions. Don’t eat, drink, or chew gum.

– Leave clear, concise messages. State your name and phone number. Repeat these twice. Give the name of the person you’re calling and date and time you called. If the person doesn’t return your call, phone again a few days later. For other message skills, review the telephone savvy questions.

 If an employer calls, and you’re not prepared for the session, ask the employer if you can return the call, or if he can call back at a mutually convenient time. This gives you time to prepare.

Keep the forgoing in mind when you call or receive phone calls. Your confidence and career advancement will improve as you hone your phone skills.

Additional tips for strengthening telephone and other job skills are discussed in award winning, Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life: http://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963    

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Managing #Conflict

June 14, 2020

© Carole Kanchier, PhD

How Do You Manage #Conflict?

How to you handle disagreements at work?

Do you:

1. Satisfy your own needs at the expense of others (Compete)?

2. Identify concerns of both parties and explore resolutions that would satisfy both (Collaborate)?

3. Settle on a solution that partially satisfies both party’s concerns (Compromise)?

4. Evade unpleasant issues (Avoid)?

5. Satisfy the other person’s concern at the expense of your own (Accommodate)? 

6. Use varied approaches depending on the situation (Integrate)?

Surveys show that supervisors spend about one-quarter to one-third of their time handling conflicts. Disagreements occur over resources, policies, complaints, rule enforcement and resentments.

Many people don’t know how to manage conflict positively. Poorly practiced, conflict may result in hurt and defensiveness. Because people have to work with certain colleagues every day, they don’t want to harm relationships. Therefore, they tend to avoid or settle disputes too quickly.

Meaningful conflict management is crucial for healthy organizational and individual growth. Disagreements often result in a more thorough study of options and better decisions and direction.

Managing conflict

There is no best way to handle conflict, and there are varied conflict resolution models. The following five conflict management modes, developed by Kenneth Thomas and Ralph Kilmann, can be highly effective when used in the right circumstances and applied skillfully.

Each style has advantages and disadvantages. Your effectiveness in managing disputes depends on knowing when to use each approach, and having the skills to perform them well. Acquire a few new behavioral skills each month.

— Competing.  You want to win, assert your position. You try to satisfy your own concerns at the expense of others.

Benefits of this model include a quick victory or decision, protection of your interests, and the ability to test assumptions.  Disadvantages include stressed work relationships, suboptimal decisions, decreased motivation, and possible deadlock.

Use competing sparingly. Compete on vital issues when you know you’re right, when decisive action is required immediately, or when you’re under attack.

Set and adhere to rules of fairness for everybody. Be respectful, tough-minded, persuasive and credible. Gather necessary information, explain your motives and appeal to shared concerns. Stick to the issue. Listen and respond. Don’t threaten or impose a decision.

— Collaborating.  You try to find a position that would fully satisfy your own and the other’s concerns. This win-win strategy moves you toward an integrated solution.

Benefits of collaboration include innovative, high quality solutions, enhanced communication and learning, commitment, and strengthened relationships. Disadvantages include expending time and energy, and the possibility of offending or being exploited.

Collaborate on important issues. Pool resources when you want to integrate ideas from diverse perspectives, require commitment, or want to develop a relationship.

Study issues first. Build trust and foster a climate of openness to new ideas. Clarify and share concerns. Use “we” language, and focus on the benefits of a solution. Brainstorm resolutions and select the one most acceptable to both parties. Be firm when necessary.

— Compromising. Compromising is about both giving and receiving. There is no clear winner or loser, but rather both gains and losses for each party.

Advantages of compromising include pragmatism, speed and expediency, maintenance of relationships, and fairness. Disadvantages include partially sacrificed concerns, suboptimal solutions and superficial understanding of the situation.

Try not to compromise on vital issues. Take turns bearing small costs.  Settle on important issues when you need a temporary solution, when assertiveness would harm a relationship, or when competing or collaborating have failed.

Evaluate the facts of your situation objectively. Insist on fairness up front. Suggest compromises without appearing weak. Ensure partial concessions are reciprocated.

— Avoiding. You try not to engage in a conflict issue.  In this lose-lose approach, you sidestep the conflict without trying to satisfy either party’s concerns.

Advantages of this strategy include reduction of stress by avoiding unpleasant tasks or people, evading the possibility of “rocking the boat,” and gaining time for preparation of another strategy. Costs may include resentment of ignored people, delays which may cost more time and negative energy, and deterioration of communication and decision-making.

Try not to avoid people, even those you dislike.  Evade unimportant issues, those you can’t win, are too sensitive, or may be symptoms of other problems.

Give reasons for avoidance. When postponing, set a time. Don’t personalize the issue, blame, or become angry or evasive. Give the other person the benefit of the doubt, and use humor to diffuse tension

— Accommodating. You neglect or sacrifice your own concerns in favor of the other party.

Benefits of this mode include maintaining or building goodwill by helping the other, and cutting losses to move forward. Disadvantages include sacrificing your interests, loss of motivation or respect, and exploitation from others.

Don’t fall into a pattern of appeasement.  Make small sacrifices when it’s important to others or to clean up hard feelings. Concede gracefully when you are overruled or losing.

Explain, but don’t defend your position. When satisfying a complaint, accept anger but not abuse. Listen, apologize, and make reparations when appropriate.

Remember, you have choices in conflict. You can steer conflicts in different directions by choosing diverse strategies. Give yourself time to think about which technique would be most beneficial in the particular situation.

Author: Dr. Carole Kanchier, registered psychologist, coach, newspaper/digital columnist, speaker and author of award-winning, Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life offers interviews and consultations: https://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963

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