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Do You See the Glass Half Full or Half Empty?

Winston Churchill once said, “A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” Research shows that, on average, human beings are hardwired to be more optimistic than not.

Optimism is an attitude that can positively affect a person’s mental and physical health. Optimism can also help reduce a person’s stress and increase longevity.

Being optimistic is defined as expecting the best possible outcome from any given situation. It thus reflects a belief that future conditions will work out for the best. For this reason, it is seen as a trait that fosters resilience in the face of stress.

Optimism doesn’t mean engaging in wishful or fantastic thinking. It’s a way of looking at the world that gives more agency to the optimist as being at least partly responsible when life is going well. Optimists have healthier outlooks and tend to live longer than their more pessimistic counterparts; they also are less susceptible to the negative effects of illness, fatigue, and depression. However, an unrealistic belief that a person’s future will be full of only positive events can lead them to take unnecessary risks, particularly with their health and finances.

Optimism is a good trait to develop as we face the varied challenges of the coronaviris pandemic

Research indicates that optimism is vitally important in overcoming defeat, promoting achievement, and improving and maintaining health. Studies show that optimists do much better in school, at work, and on the playing field. They regularly exceed the predictions of aptitude tests, and when they run for office, they are more likely than pessimist to get elected. Their health is very good and they tend to live longer.

How Optimistic Are You?

Answer yes or no.

1. I usually count on good things to happen.

2. It’s easy for me to fall asleep.

3. I’m usually confident I’ll achieve my goals.

4. If something can go wrong for me, it will.

5. I’m always hopeful about my future.

6. I enjoy my friends and family.

7. In uncertain times, I usually expect the best.

8. I don’t usually expect things to go my way.

9. Overall, I anticipate more good things will happen to me than bad.

10. I don’t get upset too easily.

Scoring and Interpretation: Give yourself  2 points for responding yes to items 1, 3, 5, 7, and 9; and 2 points for responding no to items 4 and 8. Add your points. The higher your score, the more optimistic you seem to be.

Tips for Becoming Optimistic

You create your own life script by the thoughts you think, and you have the power to change these. One of the most significant findings in psychology is that individuals can choose the way they think.

Pessimists can learn to be optimists by changing their attitudes and learning a new set of cognitive skills.

So can you!

Practice positive self-talk.  “I like myself because … “  “I can … “ “I will … “  Use positive statements about such things as being healthy, being in control, or being blessed. Write down affirmations. For example, “I can change … “

Don’t criticize or complain. Think of ways to improve the situation. Avoid phrases such as, “I can’t or “I’m too old.”

Read inspirational books and listen to positive message tapes.

Concentrate on your successes. Create a “success” collage by gluing pictures together that illustrate who you want to be and what you want to accomplish. Include the goal you want to attain, how you want to look, and the personal and professional image you want to project. Look at it every day.

View problems as challenges. If you lose your job, for example, consider it an opportunity to pursue your dream.

Count your blessings — not your troubles. Put enthusiasm into your work. 

Write down your negative thoughts and feelings. Indicate why you feel this way. For example, when adversity strikes, listen to your explanation. When it’s pessimistic, dispute it. Use evidence, alternatives, implications, and usefulness as guides. Replace negative thoughts with more positive ones. Each time you catch yourself using a negative phrase, say, “Cancel, cancel.”

Take your mind off your “problems.” Get involved in activities that let you focus your attention away from the problem. For example, go to movies or concerts, meditate, listen to music or invite friends over for dinner, or engage in physical activities.

Greet others with positive, cheerful statements. Smile. This generates enthusiasm, friendliness and good will. Associate with positive, happy people who will give you support and encouragement as you work toward your goals. Make other people feel important — and do it sincerely.

Look for and expect good things to happen. Success is 15 percent aptitude and 85 percent attitude. Your attitude will determine your success in your new venture. Fill your mind with happiness, positive and constructive thoughts, desired outcomes, and helpful ideas. You’re special and have unique talents. You’re a winner.

Research indicates that optimism is vitally important in overcoming defeat, promoting achievement, and improving and maintaining health. Studies show that optimists do much better in school, at work, and on the playing field. They regularly exceed the predictions of aptitude tests, and when they run for office, they are more likely than pessimist to get elected. Their health is very good and they tend to live longer.

Questers described in award winning, Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life, by Carole Kanchier, discusses numerous other suggestions for strengthening optimism: https://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963

Check audible Questers: https://www.audible.com/pd/Questers-Dare-to-Change-Your-Job-and-Life-Audiobook/B07VZNKGJF?asin=B07VZNKGJF&ipRedirectOverride=true&overrideBaseCountry=true&pf_rd_p=34883c04-32e5-4474-a65d-0ba68f4635d3&pf_rd_r=TN801GRP49AWQSSYMDYC1

Author Bio: Carole Kanchier, PhD, is an internationally recognized newspaper/digital columnist, registered psychologist, coach and author of award winning, Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life.  Kanchier has taught at University of California, Berkeley and Santa Cruz, University of Alberta, and other institutions of higher learning, and worked with clients representing many disciplines. Dr. Kanchier is known for her pioneering, interdisciplinary approach to human potential.

 
Contact: carole@daretochange.com; carole@questersdaretochange.com; www.questersdaretochange.com
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           Questers Dare to Change Shows How!

 

Many of us are learning that being at home, slowing down, sitting in peace and mediating, can be very productive and calming. This is a great time to review life career commitments, and explore other compatible options. Now is the time to think about how you want to live and what you want to do when this coronaviris challenge is over

So what do you want your life to look at when the world goes back to your new normal?

The 7 ed. of award-winning, Questers Dare to Change redefines life career advancement, and shows how to navigate lifelong career decision

Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life

https://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963

Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life

Case studies of purposeful, growth oriented, Questers, quizzes, and guidelines show readers how to empower themselves to manage lifelong personal, career, and spiritual growth.

Take the Quester Quiz: http://www.questersdaretochange.com/services-2/quester-quiz

Check audible Questers: https://www.audible.com/pd/Questers-Dare-to-Change-Your-Job-and-Life-Audiobook/B07VZNKGJF?asin=B07VZNKGJF&ipRedirectOverride=true&overrideBaseCountry=true&pf_rd_p=34883c04-32e5-4474-a65d-0ba68f4635d3&pf_rd_r=TN801GRP49AWQSSYMDYC1

Individuals and organizations world wide benefit from Questers.  Questers Dare to Change answers many questions adults have about lifelong decision making and growth. 

* Are you a Quester? Check Quester traits with self-scoring quiz: http://www.questersdaretochange.com/services-2/quester-quiz/

* Courage – A crucial skill in changing times

* Develop a lifelong master plan for career success

* Develop a winning mindset

* Understand how job dissatisfaction affects health and productivity

* Are you ready for a career shift?

* Overcome fear of failure

* Entry, mastery, and disengagement – Where are you?

* Find your truth – Complete self-scoring quizzes

… And so much more

I will be delighted to send a complementary PDF version of Questers for review, and be available for a consultation or speaking engagement at your request. Sample articles/columns are on my web site: http://www.questersdaretochange.com

Best wishes,

Carole

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Can You Take a Risk?

Most successful people have learned to risk. The good feelings that result from taking a risk can be incredible. You see yourself as a survivor. You force yourself to grow by calling on abilities you haven’t used. Achieving your goal will enhance your sense of accomplishment, self-confidence and knowledge. This will enable you to move forward in today’s challenging times!

Are You a Risk Taker?

Answer “yes” or “no.”

1. I often wish people would be more definite.

2. When I want something, I’ll go out on a limb for it.

3. If the possible reward is very high, I would put money into a business that could fail.

4. I like to plan my activities.

5. I enjoy taking risks.

6. I prefer job challenge to job security.

7. I enjoy working on problems that have ambiguous answers.

8. I accept the possibility of failure.

9. It bothers me when something unexpected interrupts my routine.

10. I trust decisions I make spontaneously.

11. In games, I usually go for broke.

12. Once my mind is made up, that’s it.

13. I’m in favor of very strict enforcement of laws regardless of the consequences.

14. I try to avoid situations that have uncertain outcomes.

15. I would not borrow money for a business deal even if it might be profitable.

Scoring: 2 points for responding “yes” to each of the following statements: 2, 3, 5, 6,  7, 8, 10, and 11.

10 or higher suggests you enjoy taking risks. You are autonomous, like challenge, are confident, flexible and open to new experiences. However, if your score is 14 or more, your desire to risk may sometimes be extreme. 4 to 8 suggests you may be open to some new experiences, but are overly organized or rigid in other areas; 3 or lower, you prefer a secure, well-ordered lifestyle.

Develop your full potential. Take planned risks. Start today!

Take planned risks

— Make small changes first. This enables you to develop confidence and trust. You can then move on to more major decisions. Experiment with a different hair style or food. Change your routine. At work, offer new ways of tackling a job.

— Have a goal. A risk without a clear purpose can backfire. Focus on things you can change.  Have positive expectations, do your homework, know the pros and cons, and listen to your intuition.

— Believe in yourself. Affirm yourself. Replace any negative thoughts or statements with positive ones. Avoid phrases such as, “I can’t,” “I will never. …”

— Turn failure or crises into growth opportunities. Consider “failure” a temporary setback. Depersonalize setbacks. Learn from these. Ask yourself what you would do differently and then make the necessary modifications.

— Look upon something new as an exciting opportunity to challenge yourself andto grow. If you don’t try, how will you ever find out if you can do it?

— Balance tentativeness with commitment. Set goals but don’t write these in stone. Be open to new experiences.

— Establish a support group. Confide in and ask for help from supportive family or friends. Associate with positive people.

— Describe barriers that are blocking you from making a desired change. For example, Personal Barriers include fear of loss of a secure income; fear of failure (such as starting a new job); fear of what others will think; fear of success; and guilt that change might create family hardships.

Societal Barriers include old notions of “career”; outdated retirement policies; traditional gender roles; and blocks imposed by educational institutions, unions and professional associations.

— Complete the Fantasy Risk Exercise: Think of an important risk you would like to take.  What appeals to you about taking this risk? What would you gain?  What is frightening about this risk? What will you lose?  What’s the worst thing that could happen if it turned out badly? If the worst happened, what would you do?

Where could you get information to pursue this risk? From whom could you get support? What could you do to make this less risky? Less irreversible? 

If you broke the risk into small steps, what would the first step be? How soon could you take it? Do this for each step. Evaluate the outcome of the risk. Did it turn out as expected? If not, why? What have you learned?

Celebrate your success whether or not it turned out as expected. Gradually, you will see yourself as a risk taker.

Strengthen Quester traits

Questers, described in Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life, show how to risk! http://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963    

Purposeful, growth oriented, Questers, quizzes, and guidelines show how to empower yourself to manage lifelong personal, career, and spiritual growth. Please review sample blogs: http://www.questersdaretochange.com/blog/

Take the Quester Quiz: http://www.questersdaretochange.com/services-2/quester-quiz

Check audible Questers: https://www.audible.com/pd/Questers-Dare-to-Change-Your-Job-and-Life-Audiobook/B07VZNKGJF?asin=B07VZNKGJF&ipRedirectOverride=true&overrideBaseCountry=true&pf_rd_p=34883c04-32e5-4474-a65d-0ba68f4635d3&pf_rd_r=TN801GRP49AWQSSYMDYC1

 Author Bio: Carole Kanchier, PhD, is an internationally recognized newspaper/digital columnist, registered psychologist, coach and author of award winning, Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life.  Kanchier has taught at University of California, Berkeley and Santa Cruz, University of Alberta, and other institutions of higher learning, and worked with clients representing many disciplines. Dr. Kanchier is known for her pioneering, interdisciplinary approach to human potential.

 

Contact: carole@daretochange.com; carole@questersdaretochange.com; www.questersdaretochange.com

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Tips for Clarifying Career Goals – March 18, 2020

1. Know yourself

 Identify passion, interests, needs, skills, strengths and job tasks you want to perform on ideal job.

2. Explore options

Determine fit: read, interview workers on job, take part time work, courses.

3. Clarify goalUse intellect, intuition.

List options on the top of page; on side write important criteria like needs for creativity, security. Give each option rating of 1, 2,or 3. Also use intuition: ask dreams for guidance, meditate. journal. Answers will come.

4. Plan and act

Write action plan, outlining small steps and completion dates, activities and required resources. Expect success. Visualize self performing desired goal.

Questers Dare to Change offers additional suggestions for attaining desired goals. https://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963

Review audible edition: htps://www.audible.com/pd/Questers-Dare-to-Change-Your-Job-and-Life-Audiobook/B07VZNKGJF?asin=B07VZNKGJF&ipRedirectOverride=true&overrideBaseCountry=true&pf_rd_p=34883c04-32e5-4474-a65d-0ba68f4635d3&pf_rd_r=TN801GRP49AWQSSYMDYC1

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Tips for Clarifying Career Goals – March 18, 2020

1. Know yourself

 Identify passion, interests, needs, skills, strengths and job tasks you want to perform deal job.

2. Explore options

Determine fit; read, interview, part time work, cours

3. Clarify goal. Use intellect, intuition.

List options on the top of page; on side write important criteria like needs for creativity, security. Give each option rating of 1, 2,or 3. Also use intuition: ask dreams for guidance, meditate. journal. Answers will come.

4. Plan and act

Write action plan, outlining small steps and completion dates, activities and required resources. Expect success. Visualize self performing desired goal.

Questers Dare to Change offers additional suggestions for attaining desired goals. https://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963

Review audible edition: htps://www.audible.com/pd/Questers-Dare-to-Change-Your-Job-and-Life-Audiobook/B07VZNKGJF?asin=B07VZNKGJF&ipRedirectOverride=true&overrideBaseCountry=true&pf_rd_p=34883c04-32e5-4474-a65d-0ba68f4635d3&pf_rd_r=TN801GRP49AWQSSYMDYC1

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© Carole Kanchier, PhD

Take #TimeOut to Clarify #LifeCareer Goals

With events being cancelled across the globe due to the coronavirus pandemic, it may be helpful to take time out to reassess personal and professional goals.

 

Know we will get through this challenging time. It’s a time for compassion, for supporting each other, and for re-evaluating who we are and what we want to do with our lives.

If you are wondering what to do with your life career, use guidelines Tina used when making decisions.

Award winning, Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life, by Dr Carole Kanchier, shows how to create your desired lifelong career: https://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963

Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life

Life career decision making strategies

Tina says: “I’m 32 and still haven’t found my passion. I have no drive. I want to do something creative but don’t know what that is.”

Tina’s questioning is normal andpsychologically healthy. It suggests she’s probably going through the Age-30 Transition, a time young adults 28 to 33 or older explore who they are and where they want to go.

Finding a satisfying career requires four steps with some backtracking: 1) know yourself; 2) explore options; 3) clarify a goal; and 4) develop a plan and go for it. Learn from Tina’s experience. Apply the decision-making process to your situation.

1. Know yourself

 Tina identified her passion, interests, needs, skills, strengths and job tasks she wanted to perform on her ideal job.

To define and articulate her passion, Tina recognized themes that emerged from completing the following: three personally rewarding accomplishments in any area of life; how she would occupy time if she were a billionaire; absorbing childhood activities; a prize she’d like to receive for being the world’s best; what she’d wear to a costume party; how she’d like colleagues to describe her; people she admired; when she’s energized; and whose job she’d want.

Themes that emerged from Tina’s responses were creative expression, learning/exploring and being helpful. Her mission statement was “to use creative expression to teach, help, entertain and motivate people.”

Tina’s expressed interests were in the fields of Visual and Written Arts (writer, broadcaster, set designer), Performing Arts, Marketing and Sales, and Management and Planning.

Tina also identified appealing industries. These includedhospitality, travel, publishing, broadcasting, entertainment and advertising. She thought, for example, that she could be a marketing or public relations manager for a hotel  chain, cruise ship line, fashion house or entertainment group.

Skills and strengths Tina wanted to use in her ideal job, included writing, motivating, designing programs, speaking, presenting, organizing, negotiating and persuading.

Needs which Tina ranked high included creativity, autonomy, intellectual stimulation, challenge, managing, helping and adventure. 

Job tasks Tina wanted to perform included writing, speaking, designing programs, performing, creating and organizing.

Tina’s personal qualities illustrated congruence. For example, her passion of creativity, learning and helping are in harmony with her interests, needs and skills. They involve creative expression, learning and working with people.

2. Explore options

Tina’s next step involved investigating compatible options. Tina enjoyed the process. She viewed it as shopping adventure. Before buying and outfit, she looked around to determine what was available. Then she tried it on, and if it fitted and looked good, she bought it.

Tina started her journey by perusing printed materials and the internet. Excellent sources included the Occupational Outlook Handbook, Encyclopedia of Careers and Vocational Guidance, Dictionary of Occupational Titles (DOT), O*Net Online, National Occupational Classification (Canada), Occupational Classification System (US Government),  numerous other online and library resources.

Other sources included professional and business associations, shadowing professionals at work, volunteering, working part-time, and taking related courses. Questers Dare to Change showed Tina how to assess personal traits and analyze occupations to determine fit.

As Tina explored options of interest (public relations, broadcasting, writing, training, merchandising, marketing, managing) she narrowed them, using given guidelines.

3. Clarify goals and plan for success

To clarify her goal, Tina used both intellect and intuition.For an objective assessment, Tina listed options across the top of a page.On the side, she wrote important criteria such as passion and needs including creativity and autonomy.

She gave each option a rating of +1, 0 or -1, for each criterion. Adding her scores revealed that public relations and broadcasting had the same points.

For further clarification, Tina used her intuition. For example, she asked her dreams for guidance before falling asleep. Tina also meditated, walked in nature and journaled. Her decision came as she arose one morning.

4. Plan and act

Once Tina knew what she wanted, it was easier to focus on finding a position. She developed an action plan, and broke it down into small steps outlining completion dates, activities and required resources. Expecting success, she continually visualized herself performing her desired goal.

Tina knows that making good career decisions involves work, but the rewards are enormous. She’s energized, confident and passionately involved in her new job – publicist for a hotel chain.   

Consider applying the decision making process to your next career venture. What’s next for you?

Questers Dare to Change offers additional suggestions for clarifying and attaining desired life career goals. https://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963

Based on ongoing research,the 7 edition of Questers Dare to Change redefines career success, andshows how to navigate lifelong career decisions.   

Review audible edition: htps://www.audible.com/pd/Questers-Dare-to-Change-Your-Job-and-Life-Audiobook/B07VZNKGJF?asin=B07VZNKGJF&ipRedirectOverride=true&overrideBaseCountry=true&pf_rd_p=34883c04-32e5-4474-a65d-0ba68f4635d3&pf_rd_r=TN801GRP49AWQSSYMDYC1

Please review sample book chapters and Carole’s blogs: http://www.questersdaretochange.com

Best wishes in your new career venture!

Author Bio: Carole Kanchier, PhD, is an internationally recognized newspaper/digital columnist, registered psychologist, coach and author of award winning, Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life.  Kanchier has taught at University of California, Berkeley and Santa Cruz, University of Alberta, and other institutions of higher learning. Dr. Kanchier is known for her pioneering, interdisciplinary approach to human potential.
 
Contact: carole@daretochange.com; carole@questersdaretochange.com; www.questersdaretochange.com

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Never Stop Questioning

March 12, 2020

© Carole Kanchier, PhD  March 12, 2020

Never stop questioning!” Albert Einstein

“Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning.” — Albert Einstein


Many successful people share this quality. They’re always curious, search for answers to questions important to them.

Embrace childlike curiosity, pursue the things that interest you, strive to learn something new every day.


People like Albert Einstein, Marie Curie, Leonardo da Vinci, Elon Musk, Galileo Galilei, Maria Montessori,Rosalind Franklin, The Wright Brothers… all varying in where and when they lived, all varying in interests, occupations, age, and gender… but all remarkable people prioritize the desire to learn, grow and make a contribution to the culture.

Questers, described in award-winning, Questers Dare to Change redefines life career advancement, and shows how to continue learning, growing and navigating lifelong career decision making.

Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life

https://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963

Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life

Case studies of purposeful, growth oriented, Questers, quizzes, and guidelines show readers how to empower themselves to manage lifelong personal, career, and spiritual growth.

Take the Quester Quiz: http://www.questersdaretochange.com/services-2/quester-quiz

Check audible Questers: https://www.audible.com/pd/Questers-Dare-to-Change-Your-Job-and-Life-Audiobook/B07VZNKGJF?asin=B07VZNKGJF&ipRedirectOverride=true&overrideBaseCountry=true&pf_rd_p=34883c04-32e5-4474-a65d-0ba68f4635d3&pf_rd_r=TN801GRP49AWQSSYMDYC1

 Questers Dare to Change answers many questions adults have about lifelong decision making and growth.

* Are you a Quester? Check Quester traits with self-scoring quiz: http://www.questersdaretochange.com/services-2/quester-quiz/

* Courage – A crucial skill in changing times

* Develop a lifelong master plan for career success

* Develop a winning mindset

* Understand how job dissatisfaction affects health and productivity

* Are you ready for a career shift?

* Overcome fear of failure

* Entry, mastery, and disengagement – Where are you?

* Find your truth – Complete self-scoring quizzes

… And so much more

I will be delighted to send a complementary PDF version of Questers for review, and be available for a consultation or speaking engagement at your request. Sample articles and bio are on my web site: www.questersdaretochange.com/blog.

Many thanks for sharing lifelong life career decision making and growth.

Carole Kanchier, PhD; carole@questersdaretochange.com; www.questersdaretochange.com

Author Bio: Carole Kanchier, PhD, is an internationally recognized newspaper/digital columnist, registered psychologist, coach and author of Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life.  Kanchier has taught at University of California, Berkeley and Santa Cruz, University of Alberta, and other institutions of higher learning. Dr. Kanchier is known for her pioneering, interdisciplinary approach to human potential.

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Please review sample book chapters: http://www.questersdaretochange.com/book/excerpts/ and

Carole’s blogs: http://www.questersdaretochange.com/blo

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Are You Honest Work?

March 8, 2020

© Carole Kanchier, PhD

Are You Honest at Work?  

Have you ever lied at work? Do you tell half-truths to get the sale or job? Would you lie to a demanding boss to protect family time?

Check Your Lie Quotient

Answer yes or no.

1. I’ve lied on my resume or fudged reports.

2. I’ll fib to avoid arguments.

3. I fail to disclose pertinent information.

4. I’ve cheated on school or employment tests.

5. I’d tell a face-saving lie to protect my career.

6. I exaggerate the truth or tell white lies to avoid hurting someone.

7. I lie to better serve clients or employer.

8. I’ve stolen office supplies or padded expense accounts.

9. I’ve copied software or used the Internet on company time.

10. I call in sick when I’m not.

Scoring: One point for each “yes.” 7 or higher suggests you could enhance honesty.

Lying is stressful, and stress harms health and accelerates aging. Frequent lying and fear of exposure keeps your body’s “fight or flight” response on. Long term activation of this system may result in health conditions like heart disease.

The Pinocchio Effect also kicks in when you lie. The temperature in the muscles around the nose becomes hotter, according to Emilio Milán and Elvira López at the University of Granada. There is corresponding action in the insular cortex of the brain which controls emotions. Fear of being caught in a lie increases activity in the insular cortex, leading to more heat emanating from the nose. The researchers call this the Pinocchio effect. In Walt Disney’s Pinocchio, the boy puppet’s lies are revealed whenever his wooden nose grows.

Lying damages a person’s self respect and credibility. Dishonesty also affects company productivity. Using company time and stealing small items add up. Honest employees pay for others’ lack of integrity through stricter rules.

 Why people lie

We learn to lie. Many children don’t view cheating on exams as theft because some schools fail to show disapproval of students’ cheating. The same message is given when parents cheat on taxes. Children learn all methods for achieving goals are justified.

We fib because we need to appear competent, want to avoid hurt or conflict, desire to protect our jobs, or not rock the boat. Some workers may lie about a sick child to protect themselves from taking another business trip.

Political and business leaders have lied for centuries. Recent studies conducted by Paul Piff, social psychologist, at the University of California, Berkeley, found that self-interests tend to spur the elite to lie and cheat.

Honesty is the best policy. If I lose mine honor, I lose myself.” William Shakespeare 

– Speak cautiously. Exaggerating your ability to meet expectations will hurt your status and your business more than being honest up front. Truth and trust go together.

– Communicate accurately, openly, and transparently. Be explicit, direct, and clear about your motives. State what you need or expect.

– Shift mindset. Lying is a learned survival strategy that can be unlearned. Note what triggers your decision to lie. What fear (e.g., being wrong, hurting someone) is behind this choice? Why do you believe the lie will have a better outcome, and for whom? Reflect on your answers to uncover your motivation.

When you sense yourself crafting a lie, ask yourself. “What’s the worst that can happen if I tell the truth?”

Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life https://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963 provides additional tips for strengthening honesty.

Check audible Questers: https://www.audible.com/pd/Questers-Dare-to-Change-Your-Job-and-Life-Audiobook/B07VZNKGJF?asin=B07VZNKGJF&ipRedirectOverride=true&overrideBaseCountry=true&pf_rd_p=34883c04-32e5-4474-a65d-0ba68f4635d3&pf_rd_r=TN801GRP49AWQSSYMDYC1

Based on ongoing research, award-winning, Questers Dare to Change redefines life career advancement, and shows how to navigate lifelong career decision making

Author Bio: Carole Kanchier, PhD, is an internationally recognized newspaper/digital columnist, registered psychologist, coach and author of award winning, Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life.  Kanchier has taught at University of California, Berkeley and Santa Cruz, University of Alberta, and other institutions of higher learning, and worked with clients representing many disciplines. Dr. Kanchier is known for her pioneering, interdisciplinary approach to human potential.

m Contact: carole@daretochange.com; carole@questersdaretochange.com; www.questersdaretochange.com

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What is a Quester?

March 2, 2020

ARE YOU A QUESTER? Would you know a Quester if you met one? Could you become one? What are Questers anyway?

Questers think of work differently from most people. Like many, Questers will probably spend a third to half of their adult lives working or thinking about work. But unlike most people at crucial points in their lives, they set off on quests to find new life career challenges.

By learning about the courage and imagination Questers rely on to find career happiness and growth, you may discover ways to take better control of your career—and life. Some started taking charge of their careers early. Others were near retirement.

Where do you fit? Take the Quester Quiz: http://www.questersdaretochange.com/services-2/quester-quiz/

 

           Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life

               https://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963

Why Questers Succeed

Questers are purposeful, innovative, and resilient. They view career advancement as growth of the whole person. Independent, optimistic, and often drawn to challenges, Questers have courage to risk.

Questers measure success by internal standards rather than by “shoulds” of others. They value self-respect more than what others say about them. For them, security must come from within.

Because they work hard and are goal-oriented, they succeed. Some become billionaires or achieve celebrity. Money and prestige, however, are by-products.

Questers include the accountant turned potter, the computer programmer who became a police officer, and the millionaire who started his business with $60.00.

Because Questers create purposeful work, they tend to have higher levels of personal and professional satisfaction than many. Questers are productive, healthy, and happy well into their nineties. Many become centenarians.

Become a Quester Starting Today

Perhaps you’re thinking that Questers must be extraordinary or glamorous people. Not really. They’re individuals like you and me who face career challenges common to most. But they have learned to do something about their challenges. They take charge!

We’re all born with Quester qualities. You see them in infants as they excitedly explore every cupboard in their homes. Unfortunately, as people grow older, many lose this passion for exploring and growing. That doesn’t have to be you!

Start planning for greater personal and professional satisfaction today. Learn from examples of Questers described in award winning, Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life: https://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963

Check audible Questers: https://www.audible.com/pd/Questers-Dare-to-Change-Your-Job-and-Life-Audiobook/B07VZNKGJF?asin=B07VZNKGJF&ipRedirectOverride=true&overrideBaseCountry=true&pf_rd_p=34883c04-32e5-4474-a65d-0ba68f4635d3&pf_rd_r=TN801GRP49AWQSSYMDYC1Gwen

Author, Dr. Carole Kanchier, encourages you to reassess your views of career success, and strengthen Quester traits such as purpose and intuition to succeed. Carole Kanchier has worked with clients representing varied industries, and has taught at the University of Alberta, University of California, Berkeley and Santa Cruz, and other institutions of higher learning. She chaired the Career Change Committee, National Career Development Association, and was Advisory Board member, College Admission Counseling Program, University of California, Berkeley.

Contact: Carole Kanchier: carole@questersdaretochange.com; carole@daretochange.com; www.questersdaretochange.com

 

 

 

 

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  3 Tips for Minimizing Job Burnout

Are you tired, irritable, feel powerless about aspects of your job? If so, you may be headed for burnout. Job burnout is a chronic stress syndrome caused by work and societal stress, as well as personal characteristics. But burnout is preventable and treatable, and can be a catalyst for growth.

– Keep problems in perspective. Don’t fear failure. View mistakes as learning experiences. If you have a setback, identify what went wrong, modify plans and try again.

– Manage time. Keep a daily record and recognize time-wasting habits.  Make lists and prioritize. Avoid unnecessary meetings and delegate when possible.

– Restructure job. Clarify roles, responsibilities, goals. Know what’s expected. Explore ways to creatively redesign  job to work more effectively.

–  Develop support systems. Cultivate meaningful, supportive relationships. Share frustrations with trusted individuals. Consider professional assistance. .

Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life, by Dr. Carole Kanchier, offers many other tips for minimizing burnout as well as practical guidelines for taking charge of your career and life.https://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963

 

Contact; carole@questerstochange.com; www.questersdaretochange.com

 

 

 

 

 

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