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Are You Ready For the Challenges of 2015?
“Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life” offers quizzes, stories, and guidelines to show how to meet challenges. Request chapter 1 (FREE): http://www.questersdaretochange.com. An autographed ebook is also available.
Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life offers quizzes, stories, and guidelines to show how to meet challenges. Request chapter 1 (FREE): http://www.questersdaretochange.com. An autographed ebook is also available.
We’ve all heard the saying, “Laughter is the best medicine.” There is strong evidence to suggest that laughter can benefit our social, mental, and physical well-being. Here are some sayings that may give you a lift.
1. The Supreme Court has ruled that they cannot have a nativity scene in Washington, D.C. This wasn’t for any religious reasons. They couldn’t find three wise men and a virgin.
Jay Leno
2. I’ll have to think twice about it before I give it a second thought.
Anonymous
3. For Sale: Parachute. Only used once, never opened, small stain.
Anonymous
4. The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
Anonymous
5. I come up with the best ideas when sitting on the toilet then forget them after the flush.
Anonymous
6. If you can’t be kind, at least have the decency to be vague.
Anonymous
7. Light travels faster than sound. This is why some people appear bright until you hear them speak.
Anonymous
8. Women might be able to fake orgasms. But men can fake a whole relationship.
Anonymous
9. If I agreed with you we’d both be wrong.
Anonymous
10. Politicians and diapers have one thing in common. They should both be changed regularly, and for the same reason.
Anonymous
11. Evening news is where they begin with ‘Good evening’, and then proceed to tell you why it isn’t.
Anonymous
12. Just Googled “what do women REALLY want?” My computer crashed.
Anonymous
13. How to Annoy People: Speak in a “robot” voice; Sniffle incessantly; Staple papers in the middle of the page;
Pay for your dinner with pennies; Wear lots of cologne; Never break eye contact.
Anonymous
The holidays can be an enjoyable time—but not for everyone. Some of us suffer from the blues, whether it’s because we can’t celebrate with family, feel pressured by the holiday cheer, or have a hard time adjusting to the colder, shorter days. Here are some ideas that may help you shake the blues.
– Treat yourself. Identify something you’ve always wanted to do such as make jewelry, wine, paint, or take a trip! Then research your project, and do it!
– Create something for others. Hand pint some holiday cards. Make candy bars and wrap the bars individually in something you’ve designed. Design a label for that wine you made and give a bottle to coworkers! Creativity feeds the soul and focuses the mind.
– Host a casual dinner or pot luck party. Reach out to people you’d like to get to know better. Gathering a few friends for a nice evening at your home can be fun and relatively inexpensive.
– Limit time you spend on social media. Social networks can be great for connecting but they may also skew how we perceive ourselves and others. We may be fooled into thinking that others’ lives are better than our own.
– Watch a funny video or film. Play silly or childhood games. Have a costume party. Laughter is a great healer!
– Practice gratitude. Be thankful for things you have. When you focus on what you have, rather than what you lack, you emanate the energy of abundance.
– Find something stimulating in each day. Seek challenges at work or in leisure activities.
– Respect yourself. Engage in positive self-talk. Tell yourself, “I’m OK just as I am,” or “I’m human and I’ll make mistakes.” Reward yourself. Realize that you don’t always have to prove anything or excel over others.
Attend to your dreams, sorrows, and beliefs. If you want more time to watch your children grow, don’t play golf with colleagues.
– Maintain optimism. Reinforce the positive in yourself and others. Develop a sense of humor and learn to laugh at yourself. Enjoy small pleasures such as walking in the park or watching toddlers play.
– Keep problems in perspective. Mistakes and setbacks can be learning experiences. Accept responsibility of your actions.
– Relax. Use techniques such as meditation and creative visualization to rejuvenate yourself. Leave worries outside of the bedroom and try to sleep at least seven hours every night.
– Develop support systems. Cultivate meaningful relationships. These can be built from a variety of people including work associates, neighbors, family members, or club members. Talk about frustrations to trusted individuals, or seek professional advice.
Ben, 59, had a number of good paying jobs, but he lacked job satisfaction.He wanted to continue working, but at a job that had some meaning for him. He wanted a job that would enable him to “be what he was born to be! ”
While some may think this is unrealistic, my research described in Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life, (ISBN: 978-1-936672-71-4) finds most successful, satisfied adults live with purpose.
To have a satisfying successful career, you need to have a clear sense of purpose. Clarifying your purpose and striving towards goals that enable you to express the real you gives life meaning, direction, and satisfaction. It not only contributes to health and longevity, but it also makes you feel better in challenging times.
With a purpose you have a step by step design; without a purpose, you live by default. Your purpose is your compass. It keeps you on the right path and aligns your activities when you get off track.
Ben identified his purpose and other personal qualities, researched and narrowed compatible options, then developed a plan to achieve desired goals. Within four months, he accepted the CEO position of a large food processing company.
Have you clarified your purpose? Does your career path reflect your purpose?
How to clarify your purpose
Ben’s purpose is to build things and help them grow. To identify his purpose, Ben looked for themes that emerged from the following: his strengths and accomplishments; what he would like colleagues to say about him; absorbing childhood activities; a prize he would select for being the world’s best; people he admires; skills he wants to use in his ideal job; how he would occupy his time if he had billions; and a recurring dream.
Ben loves using his problem-solving, decision- making, and mentoring skills. He needs challenge, autonomy, a sense of accomplishment, and opportunities to develop personally and professionally. His likes managing people and finances as well as marketing and sales.
Ben explored occupations that would enable him to express his purpose in the general management, finance, and management consulting fields. Then he clarified his goal, and outlined an action plan. Once he knew where he was headed, he made a focused effort to attain his goal.
He tracked his progress, and regularly reappraised his goals and plans. Ben modified these as circumstances changed.
Ben’s goal and plans flowed from his purpose, and his daily activities were guided by these. Ben based all decisions on the overall direction he wanted his life to go. This enabled him to stay on track.
When you follow your purpose, you have the power to reap the rewards of a more meaningful personal and professional life. You become more genuine, confident, and a better decision maker. You have less stress and higher levels of energy and enthusiasm. Additional strategies for living with purpose are found in Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life.
Do you persevere? Or, after meeting rejection or difficulties, do you quit?
Test Your Perseverance Quotient
Give yourself one for each “yes” to the following:
1. I believe in myself.
2. I have clear career goals.
3. I address my limitations.
4. I bounce back from disappointments.
5. I persist.
6. My family and friends support me in my pursuit of goals.
7. I can adapt to change.
8. I focus and complete projects.
9. My goals are consistent with my purpose and values.
10. I can take unpopular stands when I believe I’m right.
Add your “yes” scores. The higher your score, the more perseverant you tend to be. You may be a Quester. Test your Quester quotient: http://www.questersdaretochange.com/services-2/quester-quiz/
Tips for Persevering
— Clarify your goal. Base it on your purpose, needs, and abilities. Know why you want this goal and how you and others will benefit.
— Intend to achieve your goal. Outline your goal, strategies, and timeline. Know resources that can help you attain it, including individuals and the Internet. Break the goal into small steps, working backward from your desired outcome and attainment date.
— Maintain optimism. Expect good things. Keep a daily diary of good experiences.
— Acknowledge your accomplishments. Judge these against personal standards of self improvements. Have the courage of your convictions. Don’t change for others or compare yourself with them.
— Live in the present. Don’t dwell on the past or worry about what might happen. Let go of attachments. The more attached you are to something, the greater the fear of losing it.
— Try new experiences. Experiment with new ways of improving a product or service at work or other activities. Investigate how successful individuals or teams have achieved similar goals.
— Care for you mind, body, emotions, and spirit. Schedule quiet times to think and reassess. Practice stress relievers such as deep breathing and exercise. Get sufficient sleep, eat healthy, and take time for fun and friends.
— Experience yourself living your goal today. Hold your desired outcome firmly in your mind. See, smell, touch, and hear aspects of your goal. Each morning upon rising, review your goal. Repeat the process at night.
— Persist. Focus on goals daily. At regular intervals, ask yourself whether your activities are moving you forward. Additional Questers’ success secrets are found in Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life (2014).
ARE YOU A QUESTER? Would you know a Quester if you met one? Could you become one? What are Questers anyway?
Questers think of their work differently from most people. Like many, Questers will probably spend a third to half of their adult lives working or thinking about work. But unlike most people at crucial points in their careers, they set off on quests to find new challenges in their lives…
By learning about the courage and imagination Questers rely on to find career happiness and growth, you may discover ways to take better control of your career—and life. Some started taking charge of their careers early. Others were near retirement.
Maybe you share some personality characteristics Questers tend to have. Where do you fit? Take the Quester Quiz.
Why Questers Succeed
Questers are purposeful, innovative, and resilient. They view career advancement as growth of the whole person. Independent, optimistic, and often drawn to challenges, Questers have courage to risk.
Questers measure success by internal standards rather than by the “shoulds” of others. They value self-respect more than what others say about them. For them, security in a changing world must come from within.
Because they work hard and are goal-oriented, they tend to succeed. Indeed, some become billionaires or achieve celebrity. Money and prestige, however, are by-products.
Questers include the accountant turned potter, the laid off worker who created her new job, and the millionaire who started his business with $60.00.
Because Questers create self-harmonious work by choosing purposeful activities that provide meaning and direction, they tend to have higher levels of career and personal satisfaction than many others. Questers are productive, healthy, and happy well into their nineties.
How to Become a Quester Starting Today
Perhaps you’re thinking that Questers must be extraordinary or glamorous people.
Not really. They’re individuals like you and me who face career challenges common to most. But they have learned to do something about their difficulties. They have learned to take control.
You can, too! We’re all born with Quester qualities. You see them in infants as they excitedly explore every nook and cranny in their homes. Unfortunately, as people grow older, many lose this passion for exploring and growing. That doesn’t have to be you!
Start planning for greater happiness and personal and professional growth today.
Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life shows how to rediscover, renew, and strengthen your Quester qualities.
Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life by Carole Kanchier, PhD
Softcover| 6×9 | 282 pages| ISBN 978-1-93667271-4 | $18:99; available in most ebook formats. May be ordered from most book sellers or amazon.com
Author, Dr. Carole Kanchier, encourages you to reassess your views of career success, and strengthen Quester traits such as purpose and intuition to succeed. Carole Kanchier has worked with clients representing varied industries, and has taught at the University of Alberta, University of California, Berkeley and Santa Cruz, and other institutions of higher learning. She chaired the Career Change Committee, National Career Development Association, and was Advisory Board member, College Admission Counseling Program, University of California, Berkeley. Dr. Kanchier walks her talk!
Contact
Carole Kanchier
carole@questersdaretochange.com
www.questersdaretochange.com
888.206.0108; 403.695.9770
Calgary, AB, and San Francisco, CA
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Answer yes or no:
1. I lack a sense of purpose.
2. I’m not satisfied with the way things are in my life.
3. I have a birthday within two or three years of 0.
4. I’ve been doing quite a bit of self-assessment lately.
5. I often think of quitting my job or taking early retirement.
6. My job does not satisfy my needs.
7. My lifestyle is unhealthy.
8. I’ve experienced one traumatic event in the past year.
5 or more yes responses suggest you may be disengaged from work and in a transition stage of your life cycle. If you would have responded the same way two or more years ago, get a medical checkup. Job and life dissatisfaction can seriously affect health.
Take charge
Realize we continue to change and grow throughout life. Although we all have our own rhythms of change, we generally proceed through alternating developmental and transition periods.
Transitions are times for questioning who we are and where we want to go. During developmental periods we make commitments to and work toward desired goals.
Simultaneously, we also experience the career cycle of entry, mastery, and disengagement. During entry, we enthusiastically learn new tasks. In mastery, we’re competent and productive. If our job duties are no longer challenging, we become disinterested and unproductive. Disengagement stages of career cycles tend to parallel transition stages of life cycles.
Take advantage of the growth opportunities your transition provides. Reassess needs and goals, and make necessary modifications.
Your career development is a continuing quest to improve the fit between your career and your developing personality.
“Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life” offers inspiration and tips for moving forward.
“Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life” by Carole Kanchier, PhDSoftcover| 6×9 | 282 pages| ISBN 978-1-93667271-4 | $18:99; available in most ebook formats. May be ordered from most book sellers or amazon.com:http://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1936672715/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1396909423&sr=8-2&keywords=carole+kanchier
