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© Carole Kanchier, PhD  March 12, 2020,m August, 2010

Never stop questioning!” Albert Einstein

“Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning.” — Albert Einstein

Most successful people share this quality. They’re always curious, search for answers to questions important to them.

 

Embrace childlike curiosity, pursue the things that interest you, strive to learn something new every day.

People like Albert Einstein, Marie Curie, Leonardo da Vinci, Elon Musk, Galileo Galilei, Maria Montessori, Rosalind Franklin, The Wright Brothers… all varying in where and when they lived, all varying in interests, occupations, age, and gender… but all remarkable people prioritize the desire to learn, grow and make a contribution to the culture.

 

Questers, described in award-winning, Questers Dare to Change, redefines life career advancement, and shows how to continue learning, growing and navigating lifelong career decisions.

 

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Case studies of purposeful, growth oriented, Questers, quizzes, and guidelines show readers how to empower themselves to manage lifelong personal, career, and spiritual growth.

 

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Questers Dare to Change answers many questions adults have about lifelong decision making and growth.

 

* Are you a Quester? Check Quester traits with self-scoring quiz: http://www.questersdaretochange.com/services-2/quester-quiz/

* Courage – A crucial skill in changing times

* Develop a lifelong master plan for career success

* Develop a winning mindset

* Understand how job dissatisfaction affects health and productivity

* Are you ready for a career shift?

* Overcome fear of failure

* Entry, mastery, and disengagement – Where are you?

* Find your truth – Complete self-scoring quizzes

… And so much more

 

I will be delighted to send a complementary PDF version of Questers for review, and be available for a consultation or speaking engagement at your request. Sample articles and bio are on my web site: www.questersdaretochange.com/blog.

 

Many thanks for sharing lifelong life career decision making and growth.

 

The Power Of First Impressions
May 8, 2017
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Do you make great first impressions at job interviews or business meetings? Do you present yourself professionally when making phone, fax, e-mail or video conference contacts?

First impressions are critical. Research suggests that people evaluate others within the first minute. Decisions are usually based on appearance, posture, speech and demeanor. First impressions last. Many business transactions are won or lost in the first few minutes.

— Do you present a favorable first impression? Check “yes” or “no.”

1. When sending emails, I address the person to whom I’m sending the message by name.
2. I usually display enthusiasm, poise, confidence and style.
3. I send hand-written thank you notes to business contacts who have helped me.
4. I carry my briefcase and coat in my left hand so I can shake with my right hand.
5. My wardrobe and accessories are stylish and appropriate for the company culture.
6. When speaking, I rarely put my hands in pockets.
7. When conducting business, I stand or sit at the client’s level.
8. When leaving telephone messages, I state my message briefly and clearly, and give my name and phone number, repeating these twice slowly.
9. I’m always polite and courteous.
10. I place name tags on my right shoulder.
11. I speak in a level, modulated voice.
12. I remember business contacts’ names and can pronounce them.
13.  I arrive on time for appointments.
14. I never use CAPs when writing emails.

Give yourself one point for each “yes.”  The higher your score, the more you present a positive first impression. Ten or less suggests you could improve your image. Here are suggestions.

 — Prepare. Research the organization, job or business contact. Call contacts to get an insider’s perspective. Be conversant with company products, services and recent developments. Know how to describe contributions you can make. Practice delivery for presentations or job interviews.

— Greetings. Smile. A pleasant, sincere smile displays good will and friendliness. Establish eye contact to convey honesty, confidence, interest, warmth and credibility. Looking down suggests shyness, insecurity, nervousness and possibly untruthfulness. When people ask how you are, respond optimistically, energetically.

Use the person’s name frequently. This shows you’re paying attention and gives them importance.  Shake hands firmly, but don’t show excessive strength. Offer your hand first.

— Be sensitive to nonverbal messages you’re receiving and giving. Your body language can work for or against you. Be relaxed. Stand or sit erect. Express feelings and opinions directly, honestly, assuredly. Lean slightly forward to face the person with whom you’re communicating.  Note nonverbal cues. If the other person has folded arms, a skeptical facial expression, a rigid body and little eye contact when you speak, stop talking. Ask questions and listen.

— Speak clearly, and listen. Speak with a well-modulated voice and proper enunciation. Don’t garble words. Adjust your pace and volume to the person with whom you’re speaking. Avoid nervous, nonstop chatter. Don’t babble during silence. Sit quietly and smile.

Listen. Let the person know you’re paying attention. Nod your head and chime in with occasional verbal cues such as “I understand.” Ask non-threatening questions if you’re unsure of what the person is trying to communicate.

Don’t monopolize the conversation or talk incessantly about yourself, but do share the conversation. Inquire about the person. Share interesting happenings.

— Develop appropriate written verbal communication skills. Before sending letters, memos, emails, reports or resumes, review and proofread. Write simply, clearly, logically. Avoid offensive or confrontational language. Address the person to whom your sending the message. Sign your name.

— Dress professionally. Combine style with comfort and appropriateness. What is suitable attire can differ from one industry to another. Research the norm for the area and company. The appropriate look for men is a navy or grey suit. A sport coat and slacks is acceptable. Suits or tailored dresses are acceptable for women. Short hemlines, plunging necklines and tight-fitting clothes are inappropriate. Select and coordinate accessories to reflect your personal style.

— Demonstrate integrity. Be positive and to the point. Don’t share unfavorable comments about others. Focus on what you can offer. Believe in yourself and your product. Be genuine, natural, honest. Approach issues from the other’s perspective. Take responsibility for your actions. Focus on fixing problems.

Create a terrific first impression. To learn how others see you, observe yourself in a full length mirror or video, listen to yourself in a tape recorded conversation, or ask a friend or colleague for feedback. Practice behaviors you want to enhance.

Additional information is found in the 6 ed. of  Carole Kanchier’s groundbreaking book Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life. http://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963

 

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How Schools Can Provide Career Help
How Schools Can Provide Career Help
May 3, 2017
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What kind of career assistance did you receive when you were in high school? What kind of help are young people you know getting? What can you do to help?

Mavis, a recent law graduate, doesn’t want to practice law. But what to do? Mark, a grade 12 student, wants to take a year off before completing any post high training. His parents are upset.

The dilemmas of Mavis and Mark are common. Being undecided about career direction is a normal part of growing up. Indecision also happens to adults periodically. We evaluate who we are and where we want to go during transition periods in late adolescence and again at about age 30, 40, 50, 60 and so on.

For the high school or college student the questions, “Who am I?”  and “What should I do?” can be overwhelming and anxiety-provoking. Peers, school, family and other societal pressures add to their stress. Some stress could be reduced if students were helped to understand themselves, explore their options, define broad career goals, and understand that career and lifestyle decision making is lifelong.

Are schools doing an effective job helping students make smooth school to work transitions?

Some schools are doing an excellent job preparing students for college entrance. But to take what? To prepare for what occupation or occupational field? Many graduates, like Mavis, with university degrees and no career goals, are paying off student loans in excess of $80,000.00!

Although university is a good place to learn more about yourself, meet others and explore some career options, is a four year university degree the best option for all students? Recent research by US Department of Education (https://www.ed.gov/news)  indicate that nearly half of all students who begin college do not graduate within six years, and the consequences of taking on debt but never receiving a meaningful degree can be severe. Students who borrow for college but never graduate are three times more likely to default. A stronger focus on outcomes for students means change for everyone – schools, students, states, accreditors, and the federal government.

Some adolescents, who are more interested and talented in working with their hands or want to work outdoors, feel pressured to attend college. Many can achieve satisfaction and success without a degree. Brad, a college drop-out, has a successful computer repair business. Fred, a former college president, is a carpenter. Karol, a former English professor, has her own catering business.

Many students go to university because they’re told they’ll earn more if they have a degree. While this is true on average, many technical, trade and crafts workers such as drafters, electricians, automobile mechanics and construction supervisors earn more than university educated teachers, dietitians and social workers.

What can schools do to help students with post-high plans? One solution is to offer effective career education programs and services. As an integral part of the educational process, career education assists students develop healthy emotions, positive self-concepts, good communication skills, abilities to understand, accept and help others, and contribute to their communities.

Career education helps students acquire appropriate attitudes, knowledge and skills in three interrelated areas.

1. Knowledge of self and others. Inventories and varied experiences help students assess personal characteristics such as interests, needs and strengths and use these to explore compatible lifestyle options. Students also acquire interpersonal skills and understand that personal and career development is lifelong.

2. Exploration of career and lifestyle alternatives. This includes exploring occupation alternatives and various education/training routes to job entry. Study and job search skills, money management, economic principles, and family, leisure and citizenship roles and settings are also addressed.

3. Decision-making and goal setting strategies. These are understood and applied to all life components.

Students are encouraged to delay more permanent choices until they better understand themselves and their options, but make tentative choices to give meaning, motivation and direction to school and life experiences.  They also learn that they have control over their personal and career destinies. Flexibility and planned risk taking is fostered.

All good teachers implement some of these concepts. They also show the relevancy of subject matter and help students develop an appreciation of lifelong learning.

Ideally, educators, parents and community members work with students to help them prepare for working, living and making a societal contribution. The result is satisfied, well-adjusted, healthy and productive adults.

A career pioneer, Dr. Kanchier has served on numerous North American career education programs.
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Spirituality at Work

May 2, 2017

© Carole Kanchier, PhD

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SPIRITUALITY AT WORK

 Just as a candle cannot burn without fire, men cannot live without a spiritual life.  Buddha

What does spirituality mean you?

Spirituality means something different to everyone. For some, it’s about participating in organized religion: going to church, synagogue, a mosque, etc. For others, it’s more personal: Some people get in touch with their spiritual side through private prayer, yoga, meditation, quiet reflection, or even long walks.

Recent surveys reveal there is a growing interest in spirituality in the workplace. People want strength to deal with work challenges. They want to derive more meaning, support and inspiration from work.

Spirituality includes becoming more humanistic. Imagine a harmonious, peaceful workplace where everybody is responsive, respectful and equal, regardless of culture, religion, education or organizational level! Both employers and employees would benefit. With more creative, motivated, productive employees, organizations would have fewer retention and morale problems; employees would have greater satisfaction, less stress.

 Tips for practicing spirituality

 — Be positive, accepting, helpful. Respect others’ beliefs and their rights to hold these. Expect good things to happen. Smile to everyone. Befriend new employees. If you’re unhappy, identify why. Notice how you dealt with the issue previously, then choose to behave differently.

— Know yourself and what you want. Be yourself. Identify your purpose. Notice things that give satisfaction, come easily. Recognize absorbing childhood activities, how you would occupy time if you had billions, an important cause, and people you admire. Identify common threads such as helping others, working with machines. Develop a career goal based on the threads. Work to achieve it.

— Understand the concept of universal energy. The basic component of our physical universe is a kind of force, essence or energy, often referred to as God or Divine Intelligence. This energy vibrates at different rates of speed, and thus has qualities from fine to dense. Thought is a quick, light form of energy. Matter is dense, slower to move.

Your thoughts set vibrations in motion which attract the positive or negative. When you release positive energy such as love, happiness, you attract good things. Life runs smoothly. When you release negative energy such as hate, fear, you draw unpleasant things.

— Boost creativity. Creativity involves finding new and better ways of working. It includes discovering novel ideas, strategies or products, and tackling problems in new ways. Anxiety, stress, anger, cultural pressures, lack of security and overemphasis on external rewards hinder imagination. Relaxation, autonomy, support and feedback promote creativity.

Laugh and play. Laughter enables you to remain creative under pressure. Identify ways to make work fun. Brainstorm ideas with your team. When something is difficult, approach it with another angle. Refocus, meditate, move to another task. Acquire new experiences. Focus on learning and experimenting with something new, rather than previously mastered tasks.

— Communicate openly, directly. People need to communicate to achieve common goals. What you say and how you say it often determines how you’re viewed. When you communicate effectively, people feel understood, valued, trusted.

Talk with colleagues. Listen to them. Ask questions when you’re not clear. Summarize what you hear to correct misunderstandings.

Maintain eye contact when speaking. Make specific requests rather than complaints. Let others know you appreciate their efforts. Don’t speak when angry. Prepare and rehearse before confronting potentially difficult conversations. Avoid malicious gossip. Advise others of important news and stay informed about company developments.

— Be a team player. Effective partnerships require trust, communication and commitment. Teams that include people with diverse views offer superior problem solutions, and can resolve disagreements without hostility or domination.

Respect and cooperate with co-workers. Acknowledge co-workers’ interests, concerns and contributions. Volunteer to help colleagues who need assistance. Offer innovative ideas. Demonstrate loyalty to employer and supervisors.

— Schedule time for reflection daily. Center yourself. Take time every morning to meditate or pray. Reflect on things important to you. Breathe deeply when feeling anxious.  Eliminate negative thoughts.

— Display momentos. Keep a small stone with a number one painted on it to remind yourself never to cast the first stone. Screensavers can remind you of the infinite beauty and abundance of nature. These momentos often precipitate questions which contribute to comfortable conversations about spirituality.

Additional strategies for developing spirituality are found in Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life (http://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963) and the forthcoming Arouse the Force Within

You have the power to create a better career and life for yourself and others. Start practicing spirituality today!

Tag: Dr. Carole Kanchier, registered psychologist, coach and author of the award winning, , helps individuals and organizations integrate spiritual principles into their policies and practices.

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Tips for Strengthening Telephone Etiquette

  1. Knowledge: Before you make a call have the required information.
  2. Goals: Know what you want to accomplish.
  3. Attitude: Make the receiver feel that you’re interested in him or her and the message.

— Make a great first impression. Show the caller that you’re helpful, confident and competent. If a potential employer’s first contact is over the phone, she gets cues from your voice.

You can influence your listener’s reactions by controlling the pace, pitch, inflection and tone of your voice.  Strive for an energy level that matches your normal conversation. A soft voice suggests shyness or uncertainty; a loud voice implies anger or worry. Be alert to your caller’s needs. If he’s having trouble hearing, speak louder, more slowly.

Speak briskly but pronounce words clearly. When you talk too fast, you sound hurried or excited and are difficult to understand; when you too speak slowly, you sound tired, lazy or uninterested.

Inflection adds special meaning to your message. If, for example, you say, “–John– needs help with his resume this afternoon,” you’re suggesting John needs help. If you say, “John needs help with his resume — this afternoon, —  your indicating he needs help this afternoon.

Different tones of voice can make us feel differently — happy, angry, hurt, etc. Keep your tone attentive, interested and friendly. Smiling adds a pleasant tone to your voice.

— Be courteous. People are turned off by careless or rude remarks. Always say hello and identify yourself. Ask how you can help. Use courtesy words, “Thank you for waiting.”  If you need to put the caller on hold, ask, and wait for an answer. If you need to phone back, indicate when you’ll call.

End the call positively, for example, “Thanks for calling.”  Let the caller hang up first. This gives him control of the ending as well as an opportunity to ask further questions. Don’t eat, drink, or chew gum.

— Leave clear, concise messages. State your name and phone number. Repeat these twice. Give the name of the person you’re calling and date and time you called. If the person doesn’t return your call, phone again a few days later. For other message skills, review the telephone savvy questions.

— Ace the job phone interview. If you’re not prepared to speak with an employer who calls you, ask the employer if you can return the call, or if he can call back at a mutually convenient time. This gives you time to prepare.

Your confidence and career advancement will improve as you hone your phone skills.

Additional telephone and business etiquette tips are discussed in “Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life:” http://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Are You Telephone Savvy?

December 19, 2016

Are You Telephone Savvy?

 Part 1

The telephone is the most common business tool and its proper use is essential for career advancement.

Are you telephone savvy?

When you make calls do you:

  1. State your message briefly and clearly?
  2. Leave your name, organization and phone number, repeating these twice, slowly and clearly?
  3. Give the full name of the person for whom you’re leaving the message?
  4. State the date and time of the call?
  5. State whether you’ll call back or you’d like the other person to call?
  6. Ask for a return call at a time you’ll be available?

When you receive calls, do you:

  1. Identify yourself?
  2. Use courtesies such as “Please hold while I complete another call?”
  3. Offer to take messages when you’re answering for someone?
  4. Repeat the caller’s name and number to make sure they’re correct?
  5. Speak in a professional manner?
  6. Does your answering machine have a pleasant, professional and courteous message? Leave a good impression?

Scoring: Give yourself one point for each “yes.” The higher your score, the more telephone skills you possess. A score of 9 or less suggests you could enhance your skills.

Tips for strengthening telephone etiquette are reviewed in my next column: www.questersdaretochange.com/blog. Additional tips are discussed in “Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life” http://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Beat the Holiday Doldrums

December 13, 2016

Beat the Holiday Doldrums

We’re supposed to look forward to the holiday season and hope that it will be a time of happiness, friendliness, and peace. Yet often our anticipation and excitement turns into feelings of depression, commonly called holiday blues. Symptoms can include headaches, anxiety, sadness, insomnia, intestinal problems, and conflict with family and friends.

Part of what happens during the holiday season, in terms of mood changes and anxiety, may occur because of the stressfulness of holiday events. Overdrinking, overeating, and fatigue may contribute to mood changes. Other seasonal demands include shopping, cooking, travel, house guests, family reunions, office parties, and extra financial burdens. Some may have a hard time adjusting to the colder, shorter days. Our current economy may exacerbate stressed or depressed feelings.

Beating holiday doldrums

  • Organize time. Don’t overbook your schedule.
  • Create time for yourself to do the things you enjoy: yoga, massage, spiritual practices, music, exercise or any activity you find relaxing
  • Treat yourself. Identify something you’ve always wanted to do such as make jewelry or wine, paint, or take a trip! Enjoy small pleasures such as walking in the park or watching toddlers play.
  • Create something for others. Hand paint holiday cards. Make candy bars and wrap theses individually in paper you designed. Design a label for that wine you made and give a bottle to coworkers! Creativity feeds the soul and focuses the mind.
  • Host a casual dinner or pot luck party. Reach out to people you’d like to get to know better.
  • Watch a funny video or film. Play silly or childhood games. Have a costume party. Laughter is a great healer!
  • Practice gratitude. Be thankful for things you have. When you focus on what you have, rather than what you lack, you emanate energy of abundance, and have courage to face each day with hope and determination.
  • Respect yourself. Engage in positive self-talk. Reward yourself for completing a challenging project. Reinforce the positive in yourself and others. Develop a sense of humor and learn to laugh at yourself.
  • Keep problems in perspective. See the glass half full. View mistakes and setbacks as learning experiences. Note what you’ve learned from a recent setback.
  • Volunteer to help underprivileged. Offer to serve holiday dinner at a homeless shelter or take a small gift to a hospitalized child.
  • Relax. Use techniques such as meditation and creative visualization to rejuvenate yourself. Leave worries outside of the bedroom and try to sleep at least seven hours every night.
  • Develop support systems. Cultivate meaningful relationships. These can be built from a variety of people including work associates, neighbors, family members, or club members. Talk about frustrations to trusted individuals, or seek professional advice.

TAG: Dr. Carole Kanchier is a registered psychologist, coach, speaker, internationally syndicated columnist and author of the groundbreaking, award-winner, Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Your Life: http://www.amazon.com/Questers-Dare-Change-Your-Life/dp/1508408963

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Authenticity is a crucial skill for changing times. The word, “authenticity” comes from the Greek root authentikos, meaning “original, genuine, principal.” Authentic people are genuine, self actualizing and have a sense of purpose. Along with fearless passion and courage, they possess strong mental discipline.

Authenticity does not come from title, social stature, or wealth, but rather from how we live. That is, how we go about pursuing our purpose and making a contribution in our own unique way. Authentic people prevail in changing times because they are in harmony with the energy of the universe. Most Questers, described in “Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life,” are authentic.

How authentic are you?
Check qualities you possess. I …

1 perform daily activities in unique ways
2 work hard
3 share honest opinionsAuthetic checklist
4 enjoy being alone
5 am self aware
6 am curious
7 love intellectual stimulation
8 am respectful of others
9 recognize inter-relationships
10 seek new opportunities
11 exude vibrancy
12 care about environmental issues
13 live in the moment

Scoring: The more statements you checked, the more authentic you seem to be.

 

Fostering authenticity
To be authentic, you must understand who you are, what you want to be, and how you want to fit in the world. You should be self-guided.

– Build self esteem. Confidence gives you courage to set high expectations, to risk, to grow, to be authentic. Acknowledge your accomplishments. Prepare a list of positive achievements and personality characteristics. Post this where you can read it daily. Don’t change to please others or compare yourself to or compete with others.

– Stretch yourself. Constantly push the envelope, raising standards. Challenge conventional beliefs and paths. Travel uncharted territories. Although this may invoke disappointments, accepting and growing through challenges enhances authenticity.

– Be in the moment. Engage yourself completely in the activity at hand.

– Maintain perspective. Time and distance can make mountains seem like molehills. Don’t let what happened yesterday affect what will happen tomorrow. Face each challenge with an open mind. Look upon setbacks as one step toward growth and authenticity.

– Take comfort in authentic selfuncertainty. This unchartered path evolves moment-by-moment. Realize the path is the goal. Everything is workable.

– Focus on the positive. Look for and expect good things. Each time you catch yourself thinking something negative, replace it with a more positive thought.

– Strengthen resilience. Note what you’ve learned from traumatic experiences. Indicate how these have made you stronger, wiser, more authentic. Identify early cues that you’ve ignored, and what you’d now do differently.

– Bolster courage to risk. Review three successful risks taken. Note what made these successful. Identify perceived barriers for taking another risk, and explore ways to overcome them.

– Manage fear. Identify worrisome issues. Minimize these by researching relevant information and resources. Live in the present. Let go of “attachments.”

– Create a life in which you continue to grow and have choices. Make choices in harmony with your authentic self. Use your Quester power. “Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life” shows you how: www.questersdaretochange.com

Dr. Carole Kanchier, career and personal growth expert, is author of the award-winning, groundbreaking book, Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Life. A registered psychologist, coach, speaker, and columnist, Carole Kanchier informs, inspires, and challenges adults to realize their potential. She walks her talk!

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“He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.”  Friedrich Nietzsche.

Do you jump out of bed Monday mornings and look forward to the week?

Do you have a clear sense of purpose?

Having a sense of purpose and striving towards goals that enable you to express your purpose gives life meaning, direction and satisfaction. It not only contributes to health and longevity, but also enables you to succeed in challenging times.

 Discover if you know your purpose

Answer “yes” or “no:”

  1. Facing my daily tasks is very satisfying.
  2. I have clear career and life goals.
  3. My life has been worthless.
  4. I enjoy my close friends.
  5. I wouldn’t change my life drastically if I had six months to live.
  6. I have seriously thought of suicide.
  7. I see a reason to be here.
  8. My job gives my life meaning.
  9. I have little meaning in my life.
  10. I spend my life doing what I “should” rather than what I want.

Scoring: One for each “no” to statements 3, 6, 9 and 10; and one for each “yes” to others. The higher you score, the more you’re involved in activities that give you a sense of meaning, direction and satisfaction; 6 or lower suggests you lack a clear sense of purpose.

 Tips for clarifying purpose

Identifying your purpose will take time particularly if you’re not used to looking inward.

— Identify what’s important to you. Clarify what success means to you. Don’t try to live up to others’ expectations and definitions of success.

 — Consider how you’d change your life if you knew you had six months to live. If you would change jobs, return to school, complete a project, then get on with it! What’s stopping you?

— State what you’d do if you had billions. If you’re working at something that has no meaning just to pay bills, you’re making money more important than your sense of purpose. How could you make money doing what you really enjoy?

Identify personality traits you would choose if you could begin life today. Would you be more assertive, caring or other?

— Describe yourself without using labels. Specify human qualities, for example: “I am smart, creative, and a loving partner.” If you resort to labels such as job history or marital status, you may view yourself as a statistic rather than a special human being.

— Adopt a cause. Discover ways in which you can get involved in community projects. Volunteer to help in seniors. Join a community group that fights for a cause in which you believe.

— Identify major themes or patterns: 1) Proud accomplishments in any life area (social, work, school, civic); 2) What you want colleagues to say about you; 3) Absorbing childhood activities; 4) Recurring dream; 5) What you’d do if you couldn’t fail; 6) A prize you’d select (literary, athletic) for being the world’s best; 7) What you’d wear to a costume party; 8) People you admire and why; 9) Skills you want to use in your ideal job.

Write a “working” mission statement describing your purpose based on recurring themes. Discuss your themes with a  partner. Brainstorm how your purpose can be expressed in various life components. For example, if your purpose is to help others, you could express it at work by being a helpful sales clerk. In family activities, you may express your purpose by being a loving aunt. Don’t allow age, lack of education, or physical disability stop you from expressing your mission.

Charlene’s purpose is caring for animals. She’s made this into her business — caring for pets during their families’ vacations and waking dogs. Charles purpose is communications. He’s been a successful magazine editor, author, broadcaster, photographer and evangelist.

Purpose is a common denominator for success. Knowing your purpose will give you courage to do what you’ve always longed to do. It will be easier to risk, to manage fear. You’ll be able to change your life for the better.

“You can have anything you want if you want it badly enough …”  Abraham Lincoln.

 

TAG: Dr. Carole Kanchier pioneered the concept of purpose into her work on career and personal growth. A registered psychologist, coach, consultant and syndicated columnist, she is author of the groundbreaking, award-winner, Questers Dare to Change Your Job and Your Life.

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